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(Defining Purpose, Basics) - Coggle Diagram

- - - - The "Call for Adventure" -- something awakens us to the need for change
      - Once we accept the call, we push forward into the unknown, facing doubt, uncertainty, fear, and hardship
      - the "Supreme Ordeal" -- facing the darkness within ourselves, calling on untapped potentials, and creating meaning where it did not previously exit
      - Living out our purpose is a lifelong challenge, the true hero is always awaiting the next call to adventure
      - We seek help from a "mentor" when realizing that we cannot overcome the challenge alone. A series of tests push us to the brink of giving up, but finally we overcome.
    - - We want more from ourselves and others need more from us
      - We want to be the best we can possibly be
    - - Many of us sleepwalk through lives, operating on automatic pilot
      - Simply don't feel any passion about anything
  - - - A negative source of purpose is defensive and deficit-based (ex: fear, anger, problem-focused)
      - Purpose fueled by the feeling of deficit narrows our attention and limits our possibilities. Like going out on the sea in a bot that springs a leak. If your purpose immediately mobilized around keeping the boat from sinking, you can't navigate towards a destination --> When we are preoccupied with filling our own holes, we have little energy available to define andy deeper or more enduring purpose.
    - - Intrinsic motivation vs. Extrinsic motivation
        
        Extrinsic: reflects the desire to get more of something we don't feel we have enough of: ex: money, approval, social standing, power, or even love
        
        Intrinsic motivation grows out of the desire to engage in an activity because we value it for the inherent satisfaction it provides
        
        Intrinsic motivation tends to prompt more sustaining energy
        
        Extrinsic rewards have actually been shown to undermine intrinsic motivation
    - - Again, they don't explain why it needs to go beyond oneself!!! May need to revisit their older version
  - - - Values have intrinsic worth. They provide a source of inspiration and meaning that cannot be taken away from us
      - Deeply held values fuel the energy (on which our purpose is built). (We need the energy to fulfill our purpose, and values is the fuel)
      - Values define the "code of conduct", the "rules of engagement" in the journey to bring your vision to life, in whatever mission you are on
      - A value is ultimately just a roadmap for action. Values that we fail to reflect in our behavior are ultimately empty. To be meaningful, a value must influence the choices that we make in our everyday lives
      - The more we are committed to and guided by our values, the more powerful a source of energy they become
    - - We may hold "generosity" as a value, but the virtue is behaving generously. Alignment occurs when we transform our values into virtues (actions)
      - Simply identifying our primary values is not sufficient. The next step is to define more precisely how we intend to embody the values in our daily lives—regardless of external pressures
      - Too often our motivation for a behavior is expedient rather than value driven. We do what makes us feel good in the moment or fills a hole or lessens our pain.
        Ex: If we feel anxious, the expedient choice may be to eat a cookie or smoke or drink a beer to salve the discomfort
      - It is relatively easy to act in accord with our values when we are feeling comfortable and secure. The real test is when virtuous behavior demands that we resist instant gratification and make sacrifices. It is in these situations that values serve us best, both as a source of energy and as a code of conduct
- - - - Social/Interpersonal Effectiveness
      - Self Regulation
      - Empathy
      - Self-Confident
    - - Trust
      - Patice
      - Enjoyment
      - Openess
    - - Negative emotions are costly and inefficient
        
        When the body is tired, it sends the signals unmet needs, and make us feel a sense of emergency / negative emotions
      - Positive emotions fuel individual high performance & have a profound organizational impact
        
        no single factor more clearly predicts the productivity of an employee than his relationship with his direct superior.
        
        feel cared for
        
        recognition / praise
        
        encourages their development
    - - any activity that is ENJOYABLE, FULFILLING & AFFIRMING tends to prompt positive emotions
      - Make such activities priorities and treat the time that you invest in them as sacrosanct
      - The depth/quality of emotional renewal depens on how absorbing, enriching and enlivening the activity turns out
      - Conclusion: Prioritize activities that (1) makes you feel enjoyable, fulfilling and affirming, and (2) are deep and rich enough (not shallow, ex: watching tv)
      - For Noah: it is going to the mountain, painting/drawing?,
        For me: Reading non-fiction, bouldering, visiting art museums, reflecting,
    - - one of the key factors in sustained performance is having at least one good friend at work
      - Build depth in relationships
    - - Building positive energy rituals
      - Live up to your values & measure yourself up to them
        (not by comparing to the outside)
      - What are positive (emo) energy that utilized growth and productivity?
  - - - Mental capacity is what we use to
        organize our lives and focus our attention
      - Realistic Optimism implies seeing the world as it is,
        but always working positively toward a desired outcome/ solution
      - Key supportive muscles that fuel optimal mental energy
        
        Visualization
        
        Positive Self-Talk
        
        Mental Preparation
        
        Effective Time Management
        
        Creativity
    - - Pessimistic thinking is different from negative thoughts in the sense that it tends to colors any perception, and be defensive rather than solution-based.
        Ex: Negative thought of I need to improve my diet, and you try to find ways to eat better is different from pessimism of "I am so weak" (unchangable)
    - - 5 stages of creativity
        
        Saturation
        
        Incubation
        
        Insight
        
        Illumination
        
        Verification
      - creativity involves cycling between the left and right hemisphere modes of thinking
  - - - Spiritual is the connection to a deeply held set of values and to a purpose beyond our self interest (why needs to go beyond?)
      - The key muscle that fuels spiritual energy is character—the courage and conviction to live by our values, even when doing so requires personal sacrifice and hardship
    - - Passion
      - Commitment
      - Integrity
      - Honesty
    - - Some activities generate considerable spiritual renewal without demanding significant expenditure (ex: walking in nature, reading inspirational books, listening to music or a great speaker)
      - Some other practices can be renewing and demanding at the same time (ex: meditation, yoga, praying, reflecting). These activities can cut across all dimensions, building spiritual capacity while also providing mental & emotional recovery