Next: "Do you want to go forward and imagine being born to this mother and then imagine the ideal birth to a mother who is calm and peaceful and supported?" And then add bilateral stimulation. healthy attachment, the skin-on-skin, the eye contact, the welcoming, the sense of support all around them. Maybe the father is there as a loving father figure who is looking at the child, connected to the mother, so we have this full, loving, connected attachment.