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Agony of Eros - Coggle Diagram

- - - - requires courage
      - to discover the Other
  - - - attributes
        
        nice
        
        intimate
        
        quiet
        
        peaceful
        
        sweet
    - - love being positivised
        
        focus on quickie
        
        passion and pain no more
        
        all negativity is avoided
      - positivisation makes it a product, a hedonistic calculation
      - focus on dull immanence lacking transcendence and transgression. all the same, not Other.
- - - - overabundance of options
      - endless freedom of choice
      - compulsion of perfection
      - ergo: love representing an impossibility
      - similarly, passion growing cold
        
        Eva Illouz
        
        rationalisation of love
        
        expanding technologies of choice
        
        Han: the erosion of the Other!
        
        mounting narcissification of the Self
        
        dramatic but unnoticed
    - - concerns the Other, not in regime of the Ego
      - presumes exteriority and asymmetry of the Other
      - the Otherness
        
        makes it Atopos
        
        you cannot talk about it
        
        'Vergelijken' is a constant, flattening the differences
        
        without differences, you lose Atopia
    - - overwrought, distorted self-reference
      - opposite of Eros
        
        depression is without Other
      - plunges the subject into itself
      - excessive focus
        
        on itself and its performance
        
        suffocation in itself
        
        experiencing the Other, leads out of Inferno
    - - Melancholia
        
        disaster (unlucky star)
        
        fatality inbound
        
        allows stepping out of depression
        
        allows Eros, such desire, eradicating depression
        
        point is: disaster sets in, results in happiness, the allowance for the Other, end of Depression.
  - - - achievement society
        
        'can' stands centrally
        
        are they free?
        
        indulging in self-exploitation
        
        do so voluntarily
        
        exploiter=exploited
        
        auto-exploitation being more effective than allo-exploitation
      - disciplinary society
        
        should stands centrally
        
        issues prohibitions
        
        Foucault:
        
        homo economicus
        
        regards himself only free
        
        when he is self-exploiting
        
        supports neoliberal gov (frugal state)
        
        enabling civil liberty
        
        Han critique
        
        F fails to notice structure of coercion and violence underneath neoliberalism.
        
        paradoxical imperative: be free!
        
        into depression and exhaustion
        
        ethics of the self thus ignores auto-exploitation
        
        auto exploitation allows greater constraints than should.
        
        seems self-realisation rather than self-exploitation
    - - sex meaning achievement and performance
      - body becomes a commodity
      - Other is sexualised into object for procuring arousal
    - - necessary for transcendental dignity and propriety
      - it distances the Other into otherness
      - remoteness grows, abolishes otherness
        
        results in crowding rather than closeness
    - - positivised: formula for enjoyment
        
        inconsequential emotions and arousal
      - no longer plot, drama, narration
        
        free from injury and assault
      - in achievement society
        
        everything is a project/initiative
        
        nothing that can injure
      - 50 shades of grey discussed
        
        overuse of delicous as a mere positive experience
        
        love as a job offer
        
        strict conditions
    - - primal question
        
        who dominates whom?
        
        who fears dying more
      - state of nature
        
        two people. seek recognition as full human being. this desire for recognition separates us from animals.
        
        recognition needs to be won, through a fight
        
        existential fight to death
        
        freedom to death (freiheit zum Tot)
        
        master is with freiheit
        
        slave: chooses biological life (bare life) (over recognition)
      - after struggle
        
        one won
        
        becomes master, other slave
        
        gets recognition of slave
        
        hollow, winning chess match of someone who let you win
        
        grows dependent on the slave (recognition)
        
        cannot be free, if you hold slaves
        
        slave, loser, works for the other. through labour starts recognising himself
      - fetishisation of bare life
        
        excess focus on health
        
        capitalism absolutising bare life
        
        more important than a good life
        
        quotes aristotle
        
        focus on life, not the good life
        
        moving away from the good life, this telos dissolves
      - Reading & misreading
        
        misreading
        
        violent
        
        Hegel's absolute i.e.
        
        Han's reading
        
        Absolute = unconditional, unbounded
        
        what spirit is non Absolute?
        
        one that cannot allow the Other
        
        what spirit is Absolute?
        
        willing to go out to the Other
        
        open and vulnerable
        
        to death, Other, negativity
        
        Absolute Geist
        
        withstands destruction and stands firmly nonetheless
        
        tarries
        
        withstands without having to resolve it immediately
        
        dialectic
        
        closing
        
        being with thyself
        
        opening
        
        going to the Other
        
        closing again
        
        being with thyself, enriched
        
        it is necessary to open to experience the Other. It is necessary to close to maintain some Self. To avoid Self dissolution
        
        Love is an Absolute end
        
        passes through death
        
        you give away a bit of yourself first
        
        A slave cannot die himself into another. clings desperately to own self. No capacity for death. No capacity for love.
    - - if only positive
        
        loses vitality
        
        lifeless
      - it is the life of a slave
      - a survivor is like the undead
        
        too alive to die
        
        to dead to live
        
        like sailors of the Flying Dutchman
        
        without peace, without rest
        
        like burnout society
  - - - something meant for the gods
      - form of negligence
      - pornography overtaking eroticism