In Things Fall Apart, Okonkwo's identity is dictated by his masculine insecurity and fear of being anything like his father, which is problematic as he acts oppositely from his father in every way, even against positive traits. This hurts his relationship with his family, regularly physically abusing his wives and going as far as to kill his "son." "His wives, especially the youngest, lived in perpetual fear of his fiery temper, and so did his little children. Perhaps down in his heart Okonkwo was not a cruel man. But his whole life was dominated by fear, the fear of failure and of weakness" (Achebe 16).