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Compassion - Coggle Diagram

- - - - Helps redirect attention from what’s lacking to what is appreciated.
      - Example: Complaining about school facilities during freshman year led to constant negativity, but practicing gratitude shifted the mindset to focus on what was working well.
      - Key Insight: Gratitude improves mood and overall mindset.
  - - - Positive emotions generated from gratitude, such as joy and contentment, balance out negative feelings like anxiety or apathy.
      - Example: As valedictorian, despite achieving academic success, I felt apathetic because there weren’t enough positive emotions to balance out the negative ones.
      - Key Insight: Positivity from gratitude acts as a counterbalance to stress, creating emotional equilibrium.
  - - - Comparison with Others:
      - Tendency to compare with others (e.g., on LinkedIn) leads to feelings of inadequacy.
      - Example: Scrolling LinkedIn profiles and seeing others with better GPAs or internships triggers envy and unhappiness.
      - Key Insight: Gratitude shifts focus from comparison to appreciating personal achievements and unique journey.
- - - - Childhood development - Lack of focus on emotional connection and empathy.
      - Emphasis on academic success over social relationships.
      - Influence of your grandfather’s teaching: “boys don’t cry.”
      - Relationship strain between family members, lack of genuine empathy.
    - - Missed oppurtunities to display empathy
        
        Failed to acknowledge others’ strengths or efforts.
        
        Approaching social interactions competitively instead of collaboratively.
  - - - Actively practicing empathy in conversations and interactions.
      - Appreciating others’ strengths and contributions to build stronger relationships.
      - Integrating empathy into teamwork for better collaboration and understanding.
- - - - Tendency to Criticize others
      - But intention is good - to improve team performance by pointing out flaws.
      - Example: APS112—constructive criticism perceived negatively by teammates.
  - - - Example of Rohan and how when I put aside my initial predispositions towards him, I became a better person.
        
        Letting go of judgements is important
      - Patience can foster more understanding relationships - especially with one's current family and make you more popular
      - More Patience = more deeper connections
        
        Patience has to work alongside empathy for deeper connections to take place - one cannot just zone out
        
        Example of my best friend right now Apurva, and how empathy changed my attitude towards him
      - Patience means an investment of time and energy
        
        It can get boring, but you have to make it interesting
      - Can help you score better!
- - - - Piano Practical vs. Piano Theory Experience
        
        Piano Practical: Negative reinforcement led to self-doubt and fear of performance.
        
        Piano Theory: Positive experiences in math boosted confidence, leading to success.
        
        Programming (ECE244) Experience
        
        Lack of preparation and past self-doubt affected confidence in exams and projects.
      - Impact of Past Experiences
        
        Positive memories and successes create a “bank” of confidence.
        
        Negative experiences or constant criticism create self-doubt and undermine confidence.
    - - Self-Encouragement
        
        Use past successes to remind yourself of capability.
        
        Dont internalize negative feedback. Instead, focus on areas of improvement and progress.
        
        Internal Motivation
        
        Say that failures are part of the learning process.
        
        Positive Framing
        
        “Cherry-Picking” Positive Experiences
        
        Recall past achievements to build confidence for upcoming challenges.
        
        Focus on how challenging times were overcome - similar to how Jessica uses that song to encouarge herself.
        
        Mindfulness of Self-Criticism
        
        Observe critical thoughts
        
        Replace negative internal thoughts with positive ones
  - - - Math in Middle School:
        Overcame initial struggles by consistently working hard, even when I felt like I wasn’t improving.
      - Learning French:
        Though initially guided by my mom. I learnt to be consistent with my French learning abilities later on in high school.
- - - - Such as the case with Gurmann
      - A situation does not weigh down as much anymore. You feel light heard and can be more productive.
    - - Negativity attracts negativity
      - But positive smiles and energy will always breed positivy
    - - Empathy
        
        Understanding bad situations or bad actors allows me to understand situations better.
      - Emotional resilience
        
        Not allowing emotions to cloud my judgement allows me to move on
        
        Moving countries during my 12th grade.