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NVC chap 3&4 - Coggle Diagram
NVC chap 3&4
Observing without evaluating
It is said the highest form of human intelligence is to talk without evaluation of others.
examples
u r ugly is an evaluation
Ronaldo has not scored in 20 games is a observation
Hes lazy is an evaluation
U only study the night before the exam is an observation
Many times people talk about others using their own standards by mixing evaluation with observation
Feelings vs Non-Feelings
Replacing feel with think
In NVC you distinguish between our actual feelings and words that describe what we think we are
In English, we tend to use feel to express feeling but it does not actually express it
The Heavy cost of unexpressed feelings
Expressing our feelings instead of opinions help save conflict
Our repertoire of words for labeling people is often larger than our vocabulary
Building a vocab for feelings
not met
irritated
dull
anguished
dejected
How we are likely to feel when our need are met
satisfied
thankful
relieved
grateful