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What does the current state of my friendships say about me? - Coggle…
What does the current state of my friendships say about me?
Who are my friends?
University friends
Shared activities at school. academics
Hanging out in Toronto
Seeing each other in classes/lectures
Hometown friends
Shared activities at school for over a decade (very long time)
Grew up together
Many shared memories over the years
Never see each other throughout the school year (everyone going to a different university)
Childhood friends
Are like family to me; we are very close
Grew up together
Shared culture
Very reliable
How am I maintaining friendships?
Reaching out
Sending messages
Replying to their social media posts from time to time
Sending memes
Extending invitations to meet
I don't feel like I'm doing enough to maintain friendships
I tend to put my other responsibilities and priorities before friendships sometimes
I'm not the type to start making plans and invite people; usually I have relied on my friends to do that
Starting to realize that it's unfair to always put that burden on them
I need to make a greater effort in my friendships and take initiative
My successful frienships
Low maintenance friendships tend to work better for me
Built on trust and respect
Bond through humour and shared core values
Don't always have to agree on everything
My childhood best friend named Quinn is someone who I still consider a very close friend. We live far away from each other now but we can still rely on each other and when we meet with each other, it's like no time has passed since the last meeting.
Not necessarily defined by physical distance or time
Sense of security and loyalty in the friendship
Even though we are going down different life paths and have different ambitions (she wants to become a doctor and I want to become an engineer), we still have something which is holding us together which is shared memories and similar core values
We don't agree on everything but we both respect each others' differences
My unsuccessful friendships
A friend I had a terrible falling out with at the end of high school
Incompatible core values
We had different expectations for each other
I felt like I was always expected to do too much, while she'd do nothing to help me in return
Unbalanced friendship
I did not feel valued or respected much of the time
Bad communication on both sides