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MK/TCK Effective Care
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch. 9 Relational Patterns
- Large Numbers of Relationships pp. 132-133
- Deep and Valued Relationships pp. 133-138
- Feel people in home cultures are "shallow" p. 134
- Move quickly through early stages of friendship
- Cultural habit p. 134
- Practice p. 136
- Content p. 136
- Sense of urgency p. 136
Effects of Cycles of Multiple Losses on Relationships pp. 138-143
- Struggle with a fear of intimacy because of a fear of loss p. 139
- Quick Release p. 140
- Anger p. 140
- Refusing to feel the pain emotional flattening
- When pain is shut down , so is the capacity to feel or express joy pp. 141-142
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch.11 Unresolved Grief
Reasons for Unresolved Grief pp. 167-176
- Fear of Denying the Good p. 167
- Hidden Losses pp. 167-172
- Loss of their world. pp. 167-168
- Loss of status. p. 168
- Loss of lifestyle. p. 168
- Loss of possessions. pp. 168-169
- Loss of relationships. pp. 169-170
- Loss of role model. pp. 170-171
- Loss of system identity. p. 171
- Loss of the past that wasn't pp. 171-172
- Loss of the past that was. p. 172
- Lack of Permission to Grieve pp. 172-173
- Lack of Time to Process pp. 173-174
- Lack of Comfort pp. 174-176
- Discounting grief.
- Comparing grief to a higher good.
- Denying grief.
- Expressions of Unresolved Grief pp. 176-181
- Denial pp. 176-177
- Anger p. 177
- Depression pp. 177-178
- Withdrawal p. 178
- Rebellion p. 178
- Vicarious Grief pp. 179-180
- Delayed Grief pp. 180-181
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch.12 Building a Strong Foundation
Questions to Consider Before Moving
- What are family needs that require attention regardless of location? p. 185
2.What are the policies of the sending agency? p. 186
- How will existing family patterns and relationships be affected by the move? p. 186
- Do both spouses favor the move? pp. 186-187
- How does the family--and the individuals in it--handle stress? p. 187
- If the family does decide to move, how will it take advantage of the cross-cultural opportunities ahead? p. 187
- What educational options are available in the new setting? pp. 187-188
- How will the family prepare to leave? p. 188
Foundation Blocks for Healthy TCKs pp. 188-197
- Parent-to-Parent Relationship pp. 189-190
- Commitment to each other. p. 189
- Respect and support for one another. pp. 189-190
- Willingness to nurture the relationship. p. 190
- Parent-to-Child Relationshippp. 190-195
- Children need to be valued. pp. 190-193
- Children need to be special p. 193
- Children need to be protected. pp. 193-195
- Children need to be comforted. p. 195
- TCKs' Perception of Parents' Work pp. 195-196
- Positive Spiritual Core p. 197
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch. 7 Practical Skills
- Cross-Cultural Skills pp. 107-110
- Observational Skills pp. 110-112
- Social Skills pp. 112-114
- Linguistic Skills pp. 114-118
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch. 8 Rootlessness and Restlessness
- Rootlessness - Where is home? p. 123-124
- Restlessness - The Migratory Instinct - an unrealistic attachment to the past, or a persistent expectation that the next place will finally be home, can lead to this inner restlessness that keeps the TCK always moving. p. 125-128
Pollock, Van Reken Third Culture Kids Ch.10 Developmental Issues
- Developing Personal Identity pp.146-148
- A sense of belonging is the second need we must all have filled to live fully.
- Uneven Maturity pp. 148-155
- Delayed Adolescent Rebellion pp. 155-158
- Identity in a "System" pp. 159-163
Early Maturity pp. 148-150 1. Broad base of knowledge 2. Relationship to adults 3. Communication skills 4. Early autonomy
Delayed Adolescence pp. 150-155 1. Establishing a personal sense of identity. 2. Establishing and maintaining strong relationships. 3. Developing competence in decision making. 4. Achieving independence.
Delayed Adolescent Rebellion pp. 155-158 1. Extension of delayed adolescence. 2. End of the need for compliance. 3. Loneliness. 4. Anger.
Identity in a "System" pp. 159-163 1. A TCK who fits the system. 2. A TCK who doesn't fit the system but attempts to conform. 3. A person who doesn't completely fit the system but doesn't realise it. 4. A person who doesn't fit the system, knows it, and spends his or her life proving it.