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Care and counseling skills for marital care Chapters 7 & 8 "The…
Care and counseling skills for marital care Chapters 7 & 8 "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work"
Perpetual Problems p. 130
Couples argue about same issues year after year p. 130
You don't have to resolve your major marital conflicts for your marriage to thrive p. 131
Having a sense of humor can help p. 130
When you choose a partner you are choosing which problems you will have to deal with p. 131
Unstable marriages will turn to gridlock p. 132
Solvable Problems p. 133
Even though they are solvable doesn't mean they will get solved p. 134
Learning conflict resolution will lead to a happier marriage p. 132
Some can be situational p. 134
Step 1: Soften Your Startup p. 159
Complain, don't blame p. 164
Make statements with "I" instead of "You" p. 164
Describe what is happening p. 165
Be Clear p. 165
Be polite p. 165
Be appreciative p. 165
Don't store things up p. 165
Step 2: Learn To Make and Receive Repair Attempts p. 170
Learn to put on the brakes p. 170
Use repair statements in conflict p. 172
I feel statements p. 173
I need to calm down p. 173
Sorry statements p. 174
Get to Yes p. 174
Stop Action responses p. 175
I appreciate phrases p. 174
Step 3: Soothe Yourself and Each Other p. 176
Let your spouse know that you need to take a break if feeling flooded p. 178
Exercise 2: Self Soothing p. 178
Sit in comfortable chair
Focus on breathing
Relax muscles
Let tension flow
Imagine soothing places
Exercise 3: Soothe Each Other p. 180
Talk about what floods partner
Mediate together
Step 4: Compromise p. 181
You don't have to agree with everything spouse says, you just have to consider their position p. 181
It is just a matter of talking out differences and preferences in a systematic way p. 182
Exercise 4: Finding common ground p.182
Maybe try to solve a problem that isn't related to your marital issues p. 184
Exercise 5: Paper Tower p. 184
Step 5: Be Tolerant of Each Other's Faults p. 185
Accept partners flaws p. 185
Change your attitude p. 185
Master general problem solving skills p. 185