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Marital Enrichment: "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage…
Marital Enrichment: "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" Chapters 1-6
Chapter 1:Inside the Love Lab: The Truth about Happy Marriages p. 1-24
Happily married couples keep their negative thoughts from overwhelming their positive ones p. 3
Good marriage benefits health and longevity p. 6
Active listening doesn't last p. 9
Common Myths about marriage p.13-17
Happy marriages are based on deep friendships p. 19
Couples share a deep sense of meaning p. 23
Chapter 2: How I Predict Divorce p. 25-46
The first sign: Harsh Startup p.26-27
The second sign: The four horsemen p. 27-34
Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
The third sign: Flooding p. 34-36
The fourth sign: Body Language p. 36
The fifth sign: Failed Repair Attempts p. 39-41
The sixth sign: Bad Memories p. 42-44
Chapter 3: Principle 1: Enhance Your Love Maps p.47-60
Couples that have detailed love maps are more prepared to cope with stressful events and conflict p. 49
A love maps Questionnaire p. 50-51
Exercise 1: The Love Map 20 Questions Game p. 52-54
Getting to know your spouse is a life long process p. 60
Exercise 2: Make your own Love Map p. 54-56
Exercise 3: Who Am I? p. 56-59
Chapter 4: Principle 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration p. 61-78
By focusing on the past you can often detect embers of positive feelings p. 63
Remind yourself of your spouses positive qualities p. 65
Fondness and Admiration Questionnaire p. 66
Openly discuss positive aspects of your partner and the marriage p. 67
Exercises to heighten romance p. 68-76
Singing each other's praises can only benefit a marriage p. 77
Chapter 5: Principle 3: Turn toward Each Other Instead of Away p. 79-98
"Bids" for partner's attention, affection, humor or support p. 80
Couples that turn towards each other and stay emotionally engaged stay married p. 80
Be aware of how crucial the little moments are p. 82
Exercise 1: The Emotional Bank Account p. 83-87
Exercise 2: The Stress - Reducing Conversation p. 87-92
Talk to each other about what each other needs during stress p. 91
Exercise 3: What to do when your spouse doesn't turn towards you p. 93-96
Chapter 6: Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You p. 99-128
The happiest and most stable marriages where when husbands treated wives with respect p. 101
No religion says that a man should be a bully p. 102
Accepting influence doesn't mean never expressing negative emotions towards your partner p. 105
Husbands that respect their wives will be open to learning more emotions from her p. 109
Core issues today between couples have to do with change in gender roles p. 111
More than 80% of the time it is the wife who brings up sticky marrital issues. p. 115
Accepting influence questionnaire p. 116
Exercises 1 & 2 to help accept influence p. 117-126