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- - - - United States
      - left sri lanka
    - - At first he did not want to, but then he thought: oncology. (57)
      - He learned to approach the body in the same manner he would a bomb, knowing that the error was always tangible.
      - entering medical school in Sri Lanka was not easy
        
        second attempt was sucesfull
        
        studied near Kandy
        
        This was the first test: look at the body and make it no one. A person. (Formerly.) (58)
        
        purposed to the girl he barely knew
        
        AFTER MEDICAL SCHOOL HE never saw her again, although he always thought of her affectionately as his Practice Proposal.(59)
  - - - she left, she was in her mid-twenties, not yet beautiful but beginning to be so, not yet my mother, but closer to being so.
      - She had chosen to become a teacher because she liked to teach children
    - - Logan did not have a cook because he was rich; he had a cook because he was a dorai and it was one of the amenities to which a dorai was entitled. (81)
        
        He had never abused his position. He had never treated anyone unkindly or unfairly. (82)
      - left to Canada
        
        Leaving: this is how it is done. Logan, who had once been a dorai of a tea estate in Sri Lanka and who was now just another Tamil refugee, walked toward the officials at the borders, his hands spread wide and open to show that he had nothing. Like a soldier surrendering, revealing that he is unarmed.(83)
    - - In the riots of 1983 the soldiers burned Kalyani’s house. (84)
      - She is not a permanent part of anyone’s life.
      - she want to go back to Sri Lanka
        
        Once out of Sri Lanka and into the West, no one goes back.
  - - - So I was a child with an old soul. I think sometimes I knew too much. (150)
    - - America
        
        wanted to be a doctor
    - - It is my mother’s family that has surrounded me and gathered me into its fold. But my father’s distance from his family (153)
    - - Next to her I looked clumsy and uncomfortable in my own skin. Which I was (162)
      - Sometimes I cried and could not stop.
      - Sometimes I laughed and could not stop. I traveled into darkness and madness, as Uma did before me
  - - - They let him go and, in doing so, made him promise not only his loyalty, but also ours.
    - - a lot people visited him before he died
        
        Rajie and Lucky
        
        JANANI(his daughter), YALINI, RAJIE (94)
        
        janini's getting married - her marriege on page 159
        
        So, Yalini tells me that you’re getting married. Do you have a place yet?
        It will be at least a year from now, Janani said. (94)
        
        How Janani would be Married to this man, Suthan, and his politics.
        
        Suthan is someone the Tigers chose for you. And you let them.(105)
        
        None of us, even and perhaps especially Janani, knows Suthan any better than we did the first day we met him. What does he stand for? Who is she marrying? (156)
      - his funeral on page 170
    - - he dissapeared
        
        AFTER KUMARAN DISAPPEARED, my mother did not see him for years. No one in the family did. (103)
    - - met her in book shop in london
      - She was French, and they were in Love. (135)
      - She decided to go to Sri Lanka with him.
      - AFTER VISITING KALYANI IN COLOMBO, Kumaran wrote to Justine and told her not to come to Sri Lanka. He returned to Jaffna and its university. Then, in 1976, he was gone. (138)
      - No one outside the Tigers ever knew who Janani’s mother was, because Kumaran did not tell anyone. (140)
  - - - It was almost too good to be true, that this man wanted to marry Tharshi and thought her so beautiful (53)
  - - - she was standing in a place she did not consider her own (page 46)
      - recitation competition
        
        Preventing them from competing meant that he had to favor one of them (page 47)
        
        He told them that he thought it should be Kunju, because she had a real chance of winning. They needed the money.
        
        Because the recitation in question was a holy passage, they walked to the local temple to practic (page 48)
      - got burned in a sari
        
        And, of course, the twins were never again identical. (51)
        
        she feels alone - more on page 55
    - - THARSHI BOWED HER BLACK head to her father’s decree that she would marry Jegan.(54)
      - He would pay for the rest of Tharshi’s education, and she would become the wife of a government man
      - JEGAN AND THARSHI WERE almost a generation apart. They did not care. (page 56)
      - jegan' s death was part of the order of things (57)
    - - No one really knew what went on in that room, or in that head. No one was close to her. (111)
      - But Uma was a full-blown genius.
      - They took her to a psychiatrist, who gave her drugs that did not work. (117)
      - Tharshi, who loved Uma, would have said her youngest daughter was just Too Special to Get Married. (118)
      - When my father went to see Uma, she did not recognize him. (147) she is sister of Murali
  - - - As a working man, he had learned the value of a disciplined and scheduled life (67)
    - - He thought of her, asleep, and he smiled.(67)
    - - Someone killed a man not for being rich or for being powerful—which he was not—but for being respected, which he was. (66)
        
        His body, that she had touched and loved, was cut from throat to belly in a shallow slit that had been enough to drain him of blood, and this in turn had been enough to kill him. (68)
  - - - She was not Married. She had never been Married. (121)
      - The two spinsters vacationed together, shopped together, went out to movies together
      - They were like sisters, after all, she thought. They opened a bank account together. (122)
    - - ONE OF MAYURI’S STUDENTS was the first to notice that the crotchety English teacher was not quite herself. (123)
    - - NEARLY A YEAR LATER, Shanthi herself called Logan. I’m an old woman. I’m tired. It’s not my job to take care of your sister. (127)
- - - - At the opening of the conference some government soldiers came and shot some young Tamil men. Almost all of them died, and this was what sparked the beginning of the actual violent rebellion: this blatant killing.
- - - - She was the Enemy only by an ethnic definition. These definitions are always ugly: Sinhalese intruder in a Tamil family. (109)
    - - Marrying a doctor was a step up, not just for the young woman involved, but for her entire family. (71)
      - Bala and Mayuri
        
        Why did Mayuri need to marry a doctor? Some of her family had already married doctors. (72)
        
        he married someone else
        
        is there a need to have a doctor in the family?
        
        She never got married, and this was not by choice.(73)
    - - Harini and Rajan
        
        SOMETIMES THIS IS HOW Marriages are Arranged: rather than setting the pattern of love, they follow it. (75)
        
        SOME MARRIAGES DO THAT. They go on even when they should not. (77)
        
        harini
        
        Harini, Vairavan’s third child (74)
        
        SHE remained painfully beautiful, unnoticed in Rajan’s shadow, with a child on each hip.
        
        she did not know where her husband spent his nights.(77)
        
        her husband still hit her, and that she had issued an empty threat to leave him.
        
        was in a abusive relationship for a long time
        
        FOR TEN YEARS HARINI died that way every day. (78)
        
        rajan
        
        Rajan around Harini was like a different person
        
        They liked him and, at the same time, did not like themselves for liking him. (75)
        
        For this is what Rajan had become—a rake.
        
        He drank too much. He fooled around. Sometimes when he came home at night and joined Harini in bed his hair had the sweet pungency of ganja. But Harini never said anything. (76)
        
        Rajan drank and smoked to excess. (77)
        
        violence
        
        She smiled serenely, even when he grew belligerent in the market with the fruit vendor, or when he slapped their youngest child at whim. (76)
        
        Then he hit her across the cheekbone, and Harini’s mouth flooded with blood.
    - - Meenakshi and Kumaran
        
        kumaran was a tamil tiger and she was supposed to leave country but she died
        
        But later that month, before leaving on her planned trip to Australia, Meenakshi was killed by a Tiger suicide bomber in Colombo (104)
        
        You didn’t do that. It was a suicide bomber.
        I did it, he said, because I was part of the movement.(163) - Kumaran did it
        
        Kumaran heard the news and tried to kill himself.