Ch8 Enlightened Relationships

True Salvation

Fulfilment and peace

The joy of Being that depends on nothing outside itself.

Freedom from fear, suffering, perceived state of lack and insufficiency

Freedom from past and future

You find GOD the moment you realize
that you don't need to seek GOD

Relationships

Romantic love (Feeling of intensely alive) => Love/Hate => Addiction => Enlightened

Salvation is Here and Now.

Short-lived satisfaction when it searched from the state of insufficiency or unsatisfactoriness

Budha's advice

One should be his own refuge

On physical level

Positive already contains within itself the unmanifested Negative.

It's easier to recognize the source of negativity in your partner than to see it in yourself

One never be whole. You are either a man or a woman, one-half of the whole.

Sexual union is the closed to get wholeness on the physical level.

On Psychological level

[Mind] As long as you are identified with mind, you have an externally derived sense of self.

Ego

From Addicition to True Love

Intensely present into the Now

Pain body

Thinker, Mind identification

To disidentify from the pain body, Bring Presence into the pain.

To disidentify from the mind, become silent watcher of your thoughts and behaviors.

The moment that judgement stops through acceptance of what is, you are free of the mind.

  1. Stop judging your partner.
  2. Complete acceptance of your partner as it is.

God?

The eternal One life underneath all the forms of life.

Love?

To feel the presence of that One Life deep within yourself
and within all creatures.

For true love => Dissolve the Pain-body and
Free from identification with Mind (Ego)

With the acknowledgement and acceptance of facts comes a degree of freedom from them.

When you know you are not at peace, your knowing creates a still space that surrounds your nonpeace in a loving and tender embrace and then transmutes your nonpeace into peace.

Relationship is your Sadhana, Spiritual practice

Accept that relationship is here to make you conscious instead of happy =>Relationship will offer you salvation.

  1. Recognize unconsciousness behavior (Being the Knowing)
  2. Relinquish Judgement (Being the Reaction)

Every challenge is a disguised opportunity for salvation.

Woman's hostility could become a signal for the man to come out of his mind-identified state.