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Chapter 1: Attraction isn't a choice, Chapter 2: Preparing for a…
Chapter 1: Attraction isn't a choice
The power of attraction
It's like an instantaneous switch - designed to hijack a human's mind and body for its own ends
It's stronger than logic
Stronger than bad experiences
Stronger than a parent's warning
If you meet a woman and interact with her long enough to form an initial impression of you...
and if she does feel attraction for you...then there's nothing SHE can do about it
No amount of logic, thinking about it, peer-pressure can stop it
In fact some woman will endure abuse, neglect and all kinds of horrible things because they just can't overcome their own emotion of attraction
Similarly she just can't help it
and she feels no attraction for you...then there's nothing you can do about it...
No amount of kicking, screaming, calling, trying, buying her things, taking her out will do a damn thing about it
She can't help it
Bottom line: Women...can't help what they are and aren't attracted to
Unimaginably unfair, cruel and beyond comprehension
The real world
Women tend to break up with me, play hard to get, and generally not be happy and satisfied when I treated them 'overly nice'
Being nice is the enemy of attraction
The most popular max 'sex symbols' tended to be guys who were mean, liked to fight and basically bad guy vibes
Women don't really care if you're a nice guy...
Being nice doesn't make them feel romantic attraction
What does?
Teasing, humor, unpredictable behavior, and that magical combination of cocky & funny
Attraction works differently for men & women
For men it's about Looks first, personality second
When you walk past a extremely beautiful woman...
You realise you can't stop yourself from looking
You become instantly transfixed on it for a few minutes
This Attraction effect is the same for women, just triggered differently
For women, its about Personality/Style/Communication first, then looks
What they want vs what makes them attracted are 2 drastically different things
They may say..."Oh i want a nice, honest, thoughtful guy who can communicate well"...that is not reality for what the heart desires may not what the mind thinks
Why is this book impt?
If you don't learn how to make a woman feel attracted to you at the very beginning, then you are taking a huge risk
You're going to invest your time, effort, energy, emotions, gifts, money and life pursuing someone who may or may never feel the same way about you
On the other hand, you master the art of making woman feel GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION by using your personality and communication, then you won't be gambling as much when it comes to women and relationships...
You will be able to choose when you get into relationships
Chapter 2: Preparing for a mindset/perspective change
Stop seeing women as the center of the universe
That they are rare and valuable
So much that it's worth to forgo your
Self-respect
Honesty
Personal needs and wants
While gambling your time, money, effort, energy for a chance of getting love, approval, affection and sex
That you feel you need to convince them that you're worthy of their attention and love
That you should impress her as often as you can
That you should let her be in control
Real world view
They are not rare...they are everywhere
What about a real man...the total package, having all aspects of their lives handled, being in control of their emotions, keeping themselves healthy and fit, knowing how to dress and groom themselves, being great leaders, communicators?
It's preciously because dating is not fair (All the jerks get the hot women), that you can learn the skills to become the 'bad guy' who gets a fair share of hot women
Take charge of your life, eliminate excuses
It's because of my height, my age, my income, my environment
If you believe that women won't feel attracted to you because you think you're short
then you won't even try to meet women...you'll assume that it's hopeless, no use
This manifests as fear of going out, fear of talking to people, even worse issues
Learn how to become a leader, maintain control of situations without being controlling
Even if you have feelings for her, lean back, give her space...let anticipation build.... and let her be the first to reveal feelings
Have more self-respect and make the best of what you have, there's no excuse for letting yourself go become a snob
C1: Social Norms don't work
Things man do that reduces attraction in a woman
Act like they want & need the woman's approval
Letting her lead
Kissing up - using flattery (compliments) or doing favors to win her approval of you
Tend not to rock the boat even at the expense of himself
Things you do that increases attraction in her
Behaving in a way that shows you do not need her approval, making sure she's aware of this fact
Dealing with her tests correctly
Making her work for your attention and approval because of your high standards
If she's working hard to get your attention & approval or keep it
Then it doesn't really matter if you have hers
She just can't focus on too many things at once, if she's trying to get your approval, she'll be too distracted to disapprove of you
Mentioning it subtly
Confidence - a universally attractive trait, knows that he can have whatever he wants in life
Proper grooming & presentation
The fact is that women use clues to generalize
If you dress like shit, she'll generalize you as messy, unorganized, doesn't have your act together
They make all kinds of decisions/judgements based on any details (big or small)
Behaving in a way that shows you "get it"
If you are a man who understands what it takes to trigger the feeling of Attraction inside of her
If you are someone who is comfortable in your own skin around her/attractive women
You're experienced enough to know how to deal with their tests, moods and drama
Someone who isn't insecure, who won't try to please her with gifts and warmth/attentiveness/care
Someone who knows how to control his emotions, how to be totally cool and calm in all situations
C2: Do not be a wussy