Mind Map - Family
Conflicts | Mamon & Japan 301
Between siblings
Between parents
Between parents and children
How to prevent conflicts in the family
Summary:
How to resolve conflicts in the family
Difference in personality
Lack of awareness of one’s responsibility
Unfaithfulness
Lack of time for each other
Violence
Incompatibility of relatives
Behaviors of parents
Expectation
Friend choice
Generation gap
Siblings are close to each other; however, lack of time, communication and maturity can lead to conflicts.
Competition
Unequal treatment from parents
Difference in age
Property
acting on emotions and using violence to deal with problems
This leads to fighting which can be very serious and they may decide to split up and some might lose their trust for their partner.
A wife nowadays has to work while taking care of the baby, which is a lot of responsibility. This causes her to be moody and can irritates the husband. For example, two parents have conflict over both of them forgetting to bring their child to a doctor's appointment.
Living together is not easy. Both partners must adapt to get along with each other's personality to be happy as a partner.
One might have habits that their partner's relatives do not like. This is normal because of different cultures. However, the partner might feel uncomfortable and this can lead to conflict.
Partners have less time to communicate, and lack of communication and lead to conflict. Sacrificing time ot resolve each other is the best way to solve the conflict for busy people.
Siblings want to prove which one is better than the other, if they do have too much competition, it can lead to feeling of jealousy and hate. Eg. Who is better at study, games, sports, etc.
One sibling gets better treatment than the other because of certain reasons like having better grades, being younger, or being on better behavior.
A high difference in age causes a difference in maturity, making them have different views and ideas. This can lead to conflict. (eg. younger brother annoys older sister, who is busy with school.)
Siblings have to share things and space with each other. Some might feel unfair or don't want to share which can lead to conflict.
Children get annoyed when their parents are too strict or angry at them, which can lead to a fight.
Parents want their children to be what they want them to be, and disappointing them can cause stress and pressure on both sides.
Some parents think their children's friends can lead them in a bad way, so they don't approve. This can lead to conflict between the children and parents.
The difference in generation means different views. Parents may not be able to accept some of their children's actions because they base them on their old views. Children also won't understand their parents.
It is important to prevent and resolve any family conflict at all costs, because family shapes a child's behavior, and we don’t want them to be unhappy. Just being able to control your emotions and understand others will prevent family conflicts. Moreover, genuinely caring and loving each will easily prevent any big conflict. To resolve conflict, you have to communicate and express your apology when you are ready, don't be afraid to talk about how you feel and listen to other’s reasons.
Sincerely love, sincerity, and care for each other. Build trust within one another, leading to the ability to talk about issues directly and openly.
Have good communication skills with your partner. Use polite words and appropriate body language, encourage people, be a good listener, and sympathize with feelings of family members
Take accountability for your behavior. Accept behaviors that could be deemed inappropriate and adjust such behaviors to be compatible with other family members.
Adapt yourself. Change behaviors to match well with other people's personalities and natures in a household. Learn from one another to see what you can improve.
Avoid violence. Communicate and use reason and good problem-solving skills to figure out a resolution together peacefully, not resorting to violence.
Understand rules. Be able to comprehend rules set by the household for members to follow and abiding by them. For example, no using swear words in the house.
Express your feelings directly. Be transparent as it's better than criticizing others emotionally. For example, if a wife is upset about her husband's smoking habits, she should say so.
Talk when you are ready to talk. Your physical and emotional state should be ready. For example, not being exhausted when addressing conflicts.
Give the other person a chance to
explain their reasoning. Don't just make premeditated assumptions too quickly because you'll in turn be biased.
Make sure that both sides understand
each other's points of view. Ensure that both sides have the same understanding of the issue, observing the gestures and feelings of the other side.
The accused must try to understand
a problematic issue or conflict; doing so with sincerity and politeness. Understand the reason why you are being blamed for something.
Be ready to compromise. Be ready to meet the other side halfway and have real compromises.
Have a sincere goal to build a happy family --- the basic common ground of a good relationship in a family.