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STRATEGIES FOR COMMUNICATING ABOUT DIFFICULT ISSUES, :trophy:, :thought…
STRATEGIES FOR COMMUNICATING ABOUT DIFFICULT ISSUES
"Focus on the positive aspects of the other person." (Pg. 142)
Don't get so caught up on the bad things about the person you're communicating with.
Don't be habitually negative. Try and look at the positive aspects of the person you are talking to and let that overcome the negatives
"Call a TIME-OUT." (Pg. 142)
Pause the conversation and give each other time to cool down.
Wait to resume the conversation until adrenaline has stopped pumping and you can speak without your emotions taking over.
"Listen very carefully to the other person." (Pg. 142)
"Repeat back to your partner what you think she is saying." (Pg. 142)
Don't assume your partner is saying something. make sure you are listening well, rather than just HEARING.
"Don't expect the other person to be able to read your mind." (Pg. 142)
It is not realistic for your partner to "Just know" what you're thinking. you have to be able to communicate with your words.
"Don't fight dirty. Avoid attacking the other person." (Pg. 143)
"What good can possibly come from making our loved ones feel bad?" (Pg. 143). I really like the way that this is worded- don't tear down your loved one to win an argument.
"Discuss one thing at a time until it is resolved." (Pg. 143)
Don't bring up past situations to resolve or help your side of the current situation. Deal with the situation at hand without bring other things to the surface.
"Win-win is much better than win-lose." (Pg. 144)
I think that we often forget that in arguments, we are not fighting each other, but we're fighting the situation. Don't try to "beat" your partner. Instead, beat the issue at hand.
"Loving relationships fall apart when the people get into Win-Lose types of conflicts, when each is trying to dominate the other." (Pg. 144)
"Solve the conflict, make things better..." (Pg. 145)
"... Create a peaceful and harmonious relationship." (Pg. 145)
"Life is too short to be trying to change each other." (Pg. 145)
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