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Disclosure:
share or not to share
to be better known by others
need to take risk
to be vulnerable with your sharing
after sharing, might be misunderstood, judged, rejected or impressed wrongly ...
need to be honest to yourself and others: authentic
potential issues
your sharing overwhelming the others
affects others' interest or privacy
an interesting scenarios of building a exceptional relationship
climbing up a mountain together with a friend
offer help or not?
take or reject?
different pace and needs to take breals
Mutually understood goal or mission helps you to build a hope that support both of you to walk through the journey:
they should both keep in mind that over the difficult steep headwall, there is a beautiful meadow with summer flowers for you to lie down and rest...
the 15 % rule -
Elena and Sanjay were work colleagues
they cooperated well before, and have lunch regularly
they like camping both
share what a difficult colleague she encountered at work
hard to tune in to disclose more deeper
danger zone vs comfort zone
what in-between is learning zone
share 15% of that zone in anyways and whatever wordings or aspects
not completely safe or danger but surely you have some choices
God grant me wise and wisdom and knowledge to do that, amen
it's totally subjective and need to judge the appropriateness (content, boundaries, wordings, facts, general or details, feelings, opinions, ...
notice: your disclosure may have certain impact to the listener(s)
conversation setting could vary from time to time
one to one ; one to a group, in a restaurant; on beach; walking in a trail, ...
self-disclosure needs to take risk to be vulnerable. we may learn some skills to make the sharing to be more secure and constructive among your friends.
authentic sharing is an element between your closed friends
the reactions of your listeners are not controllable
whether they judge or preoccupied \
what you wanted to share, what concerns about your sharing, what emotion you have...
emotions matter
express thoughts and feeling
nobody wants to be alone in one's own feelings
worry about being judged after sharing
fear to share some personal issues one may feel embarrassed, e.g. pregnant difficulty
worry how his friend may disagree with her issue, e.g. conflicts with her colleagues
some positive wording like enjoyed the lunch --> next meeting possible
emotion is important to acknowledge but it should not overwhelmed your decision making and actions.
rationality and emotion are both parts of you.
sometimes, some people used I feel as if I think