Dumping a backstabbing friend 101 - Coggle Diagram
Dumping a backstabbing friend 101
FINAL CHOICE OF ACTION
Pro's and Con's
PROS: Don't have a following girl
Everytime we go somewhere or do something she would want to join in and we don't like it. If we remove her from our lives we can have peace and be stress free
our extent of leaving her is leaving her and keeping the relationship of just being classmates, we will help each other but not hangout together
we will not be soft hearted and feel guilty we are not ditching her or dumping her forever, just setting a boundary so that we can be more calmed and distant
Parents relationship might be ruined/troubled
troubled feelings/ confrontation
Example: Tongan asked why we were avoiding alyse even when we were "trying" to seem normal.
we will explain our choice and tell her it is not her concern.
Our parents thinks that we are "best friends" at school and they think that we like each other equally, so if we ditch her suddenly, they will surely question us and wonder why we don't like her.
be straightforward forward, tell them all the incidents and it is our choice of who we want as friends
They prob know a lot about us because alyse is the kind of person who tells their parents everything over dinner. If she starts feeling sad or angry, they will go like: are you feeling sad? what happened?
solution: be understanding and act kind to show that we care for her but we would like to stop hanging out together. Our relationship can stay as "classmates" if she wants but I won't give a dam if she doesn’t want to stay in a healthy relationship
There is a high chance she will have a mental breakdown over dinner with her family and we will be reconised as the enemies and rude people.
Examples: 1.Hey why did you do that to me? I thought we were best friends if you do that to me i will tell ppl.
Our parents might get bad reputation among the PTA as her parents might gossip about our friendship and no one will be able to stop the gossip ongoing until something more surprising comes along and that will have a very low chance percentage.
Slowly go our different ways (with alyse ofc)
tell her that we dont like her (be straightforward)
make her hate us and make her leave us herself
this is prob one of the best ideas cuz we just have to be extra ourselves and she will 100% find us annoying. Examples: say that you want something and then say that you dont want that thing a few days later, or something.
Do what she is doing to us
We are so annoyed with her, she tries to copy everything we do and it is driving us crazy. I wonder what would happen if we do the same thing to her.
things we should do: 1. go to her house and touch things without asking. 2. use her pens and stuff without asking. 3. say things that she says. 4. be her, beat her at her own game :>
it is kinda hard cuz we cant really stay quiet for long and it will be so awkward
leave her out in everything
be interested in something she is not
Things that we could be "interested" in:
boyish stuff ❌
tomboy, its not bad, but she might like it.
She might or might not accept and might or might not leave us alone
Be straight forward with our choice and explain why
explain our choice of action and allow her to process and understand why we would like to leave her. (we do not have to be affectionate or caring towards her she is not in our care anymore, from now on we will treat her as normal classmates and nothing else. We will help each other when needed but will not initiate playdates in the future)
Slow approach to leave(distant and rejection)
When being close, choose an alternative and avoid gatherings with their family and friends. Try new hobbies but do not give up on original hobbies only because of the ongoing actions.
Have new interests
do not abandon original interests and earn new skills. Read new genres and discuss new things, then distance and be far apart.
As we have a new school year, this means we will be in separate classes and our relationship will definitely weaken, this way we can naturally distance from her and be more independent.