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Charisma and attraction
how to be attractive as a nerd
dont hide your interests
if you talk with embaresement, the other person will assume it is embarassing
low volume
looking down
hesitating when you speak
show excitement
sharing your enthusiasm about anything is endearing
come through in your voice
facial expressions
hand gestures
make your interests relatable/interested to them
relate your passion to something you know the person will understand
its like ....(something they will understand)
LOL (you play online with 5 frriends like baskate ball)
give them chances to opt in or opt out of the conversation
have interests that don't let you get put easily into a box
you are more attractive if people cant predict you based on a stereotype
have a viriety of interests and get that across conversation
dont hide your interest because you fear rejection
embrace being polerizing
try to imagine positive outcomes but with no expectations
create a connection
spike desire/attraction
make her think about you
messages/calling
woman dont find fast responsive man attractive
attraction grows in space
woman are more attracted to man with strenght and confidence then really nice guys
dont show that you are easy to please
flirt
dont show that you are selled right away
be funny
high energy and entusiastic
compliments
use more strong words
speak 20% louder/enthusiastic
tease/provoque
(over the top teasing)
with absurd questions that make her lauft
tease with a cliche callout
"that is so unusual to hear from a actress"
create a frame where they seek your approval
use her traits/personalities/profession/country
reserve the cliche about something that they wont be insicure about
with a fun tone without make them being insicure
call yourself out too
if you do that people will see that you are not taking any of that serious
make it fun rather than cheesy
being playfully absurd
start almost every conversation in a fun positive way
talk about something interesting to them to make a connection
create emotions
create fun conversations and establish that you are more playful than most people
create a environvmnet that make people feels safe flirting and being sexual
just for fun
not being jujgmental
have a casual and confident tone
playfully misnterpret someting
so that she was the one who took the conversation sexual
go first on your on by a joke that isn't about them
say something innocent but that has a double meaning
aways move to something new
keys
teasing
absurdity
why you hate america
make clear that you are being playful
misinterpretation
innuendo
flirt to world
leaned back body language
not
not seeing creepy
not seeing try hard
fisical touch
high five
shoulder touches
hugs
be confontable with the worse case scenario
purposfly create an awkward pause
find harmles ways to expend your confort zone
simply talk to more strangers
quick off with good phrases
hey I know this is totally random but you're absolutly gorgeous I'd be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn't find out more about you
build chemestry
being interested without being cheesy or give yourself too much