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Tackling Gareth's difficulties, : - Coggle Diagram
Tackling Gareth's difficulties
What to consider
What is the problem?
School life
He is frustrated at school and on the sports field and feels he is picked on
He is not working hard on his academics or sport
Gareth is demotivated
He is not taking accountability for his bad actions
Home life
He has a bad relationship with his parents
He feels he is always being moaned at by his parents
His parents are always fighting
Friends and going out
He is choosing friends with bad influences on him
He isn't building healthy relationships
He is trying to escape reality through drinking
He is mistreating his girlfriend
What resources are available to solve the problem?
Therapy
Go see a school therapist
Go to an external family therapist
Family and friends
Talk to his parents
Do things that he enjoys with his friends which don't harm him
Make sure his friends have positive influence
School support system
Use the BSU
Talk to his tutor
Talk to his mentor
Engage his teachers and sports coaches
Online tools
Use a calendar to organise your life
Explore the Taming the Teenager Facebook page for motivation
Use Pomodoro technique to study effectively and avoid procrastination
What is causing the problem?
Parents fighting
He is worrying about their mental state and family stability
He is harming his mental state further as a result
Their fighting is taking its toll on him
He doesn't have a good relationship with his parents
His bad attitude and approach
He doesn't try and deal with his problems
He dishes out blame for his problems and doesn't take accountability
He has a sorry for himself attitude
He is doing harmful things
He is drinking large amonuts of alcohol
He is harming his physical health
He is succumbing to peer pressure
What are the consequences of the problem?
He is harming his mental and physical health
He is making bad decisions and harming the people around him and his relationship with them
He is underperforming at academics and sport
What to change
Attitude and approach*
See the world with more optimism
Change his attitude and try and find a solution instead of feeling sorry for himself
Become more organised
His relationship with his parents
Change his relationship with them and try have a healthy relationship
Try and approach his parents regarding their fighting and impact on him
Friends and girlfriend
His friends must have a positive influence on him and he must change them if not
Change the activities he does with his friends to positive activities
Try to fix his relationship with his girlfriend
Be honest with his girlfriend and she can decide whether she wants to be with him
School life
Change his preparation for tests and study harder
Work as hard as possible during school so he doesn't have to do later at home
Listen in class instead of messing around on his phone
Attend all practices and be focussed at the practices
What to do
Schoolwork
Study hard for tests using a good study technique
Try his best on all his homework and assignments
Make a calendar for all his tests, assignments and homework
Organise and prioritise his life to balance his schoolwork and his social life
Family relationship
Spend quality time together rebuilding relationship
Try be more open as a family
Engage with parents to talk through issues on own or with therapist
Sport
Work hard in practice
Listen to his coaches to improve
Do the extras by himself to improve his game
House at school
Work to make his house an educational place
Respect the house and keep it clean
Add value to the house either by leadership, sport, academics or music
Build good, healthy relationships with the boys in his house and staff
Attitude and approach
Fix his attitude and start to find solutions for his problems
Stop dishing out the blame and take accountability
Be more determined and get himself to a good place
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