Emotional and Cognitive Socialization Outcomes

Feel good about failure


Primarily emotional and cognitive

Primarily social and behavioral

What affects Values?

Motives

Morals

Attributes

Attitudes

Self-esteem

Values

Gender role

Self-regulation


What is important to you in life? RESPECT

These outcomes are the result of child, family, school, peer, and community interaction (mesosystem)

Basic Societal Value:

  1. Equal justice for all. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” —The Golden Rule
  2. Compassion for those in need. “With malice toward none, with charity for all.” —Abraham Lincoln
  3. Equality of opportunity. “We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”—Thomas Jefferson

Basic Personal Value:

  1. Truth. - "The truth shall make you free." - John
  2. Love. "To love and be loved." - Edgar Allan Poe
  3. Knowledge. "Knowledge is power." - Meditationes Sacrae, Francis Bacon

By Personal Perceptions: Age, experience, cognitive development, and moral reasoning affect values.

By Societal Perceptions: eg. Normality - Sophie Freud 1999, it is based on societal norms at a given time, as well as who is perceived deviating from those norms. US - common in psychological help, social services, medical care for those deviating.

Excellence comes from effort

Protecting kids from failure, they say, is the worst sort of false kindness

Kids need honest feedback

Self-esteem can actually be dangerous

People who have this inflated, grandiose, view of themselves, when other people criticize them, they are likely to lash out and become angry and aggressive.

Violence may be the result of artificially high self-esteem.

Mystery of happiness: There are many misconceptions about happiness

Happiness can come as a result of having control over some of our environment

Psychology professors Brad Bushman and Roy Bowmeister:people who thought they were superior or have inflated views of themselves were more aggressive

Pushing yourselves in the pursuit of happiness is an added stressor to life

We have to understand that we come into the world in a certain way and to believe, to understand that that is who we are and to respect that is who we are.

Control at any age is an important aspect of feeling good.

Another component of happiness is optimism. When problems happen, are you confident you can make things work out better?

A fundamental belief that things, in the end, were gonna to be okay.

Belief in God does correlate with happiness.

Religious people feel that happiness is a sense of commitment to something bigger than just themselves.

what may be the biggest predictor of happiness is whether you have close relationships

Close, supportive, connected relationships make for happiness

Humor can help you relieve tension, solve problems creatively, communicate with folks, and to deal with the inevitable bumps in the road up ahead.

“Affluenza: the unhappy condition of overload, debt, anxiety and waste resulting, from the dogged pursuit of more.”

Living simply and sharing a future for generations to come. It need not be a future of deprivation.