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M5 The Importance of Goals - Coggle Diagram
M5 The Importance of Goals
Q / Topics
Why goals should be front and center when pursuing a happy and meaningful life.
What kinds of goals matter most?
When pursuing your goals, is it better to dream big or just WOOP it up a bit?
Would a few grams of grit help when pursuing your goals?
WOOP Strategy
Wish
Behavioral traps (bad habits)
Behavioral fences (Good habits)
Outcome
Obstacles
Plan
Replace “if-then” plan to as a “when-then” strategy
WOOP works best with smaller, sharply defined goals
Personal Strivings (Goals)
Achievement Strivings
Mastery in a challenging task, Academic
Affiliation Strivings
Being part of meaningful group, Acceptance from valued peers
Intimacy and Romantic Strivings
Close personal relationship
Power Strivings
Attainment of hierarchy and status
Independence Strivings
Autonomy in our lives
Spiritual Strivings
Being at peace
Generativity Strivings
Contributing to others' well-being, particularly those in the next generation
Personal Growth and Health Strivings
Physical and psychological well-being
Emotional Self-regulation Strivings
Emotional intelligence
Self-trust
Grit
Characteristics
Conscientiousness
Achievement Oriented
vs. Dependable
Commit to go for the gold
rather than just show up for practice.
Follow-through
Long-Term Goals and Endurance
Practice must have purpose.
Resilience
Optimism + Confidence + Creativity
= Resilience = Hardiness =(+/- )Grit.
Excellence
Excellence vs. Perfection
Don’t seek perfection,
but instead strive for excellence.
Prioritizes progress over perfection.
Courage
Manage fear of failure
Eleanor Roosevelt: “do something that scares you everyday.”
Growth mindset => To build Grit
Barriers to Goal attainment
Urgent crowd out the Important. Mere Urgency effect
Lack of knowledge about what it will take to achieve a goal.
Lack of motivation
WOOP
Grit
Lack of self-regulation.
Inability to resist short-term temptations
Procrastination
Procrastination is treatable
Perfectionism may be one cause.
Perfectionism
Temporal traps
Pleasure-loving Present-minded Selves often exercise veto power
over our more prudent, goal-oriented Future-minded Selves
Positively-reinforcing aspects
Temporal fences
Negative reinforcers
Discount the future in favor of the present
Goals Categories
Personal
Health, Hobby, Sleep
Digital disconnect
Joys of Solitude
Interpersonal
Family
Social
Professional
Being Present, Listeners, Focused,
Less reactive and Judgemental
Active listening techniques
Be attentive
Ask open-ended questions
Ask probing questions
Request clarification
Paraphrase
Be attuned to and reflect feelings
Summarize