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Raising Girls
Ch 3 Learning to Explore (2 - 5 Yrs)
No Limits to Girlhood
Enthusiastic Learning
Security Leads to Exploring
Learning and fun are the same things for a happy girl
Kids learn to love life and learning from adults
Logs of Arty Stuff is Free
Clothes
Girls should have old and tough clothes to be messy
Simple is the best
Nature is Essential
Three Should Be Free
Play and no pressure -> be creative and free
Performance/competition -> tense, cramped and lack creativity
Choosing Toys
Ch 2 Right from the Start ( Birth - 2 Yrs)
Learning to Connect
People Skills Start Very Young
Growing the Prefrontal Cortex
The gift of Calm
Crying and Sleep
You Also Have to Excite Your Baby
Cha 9 Bodies, Weights and Food
Yes: HAES/blood pressure/heart rate
How to help your daughter
become a role model she needs
no soft drink
no TV at meal time
everyday food + occasional food
be active
No: Dieting, Fat Shaming, BMI
Cha 8 Mean Girls
Cyberbullying
Small but Strong
Increasing confidence can turn the crisis to a growing opportunity
Physical bully
non physical way
Spreading rumors
Excluding
Making faces / Rolling eyes
It takes three
bystander
Speak up
stand alongside the victim
victim
No - hit back
Yes - verbally respond
perpetrator
Ch 1 Creating a Total Girl
The Five Stages of Girlhood
Stage 2: Exploring (2- 5 Yrs)
Is the world a fun and interesting place?
Building on the secure feelings from stage 1
Learning Life is an adventure
Stage 3: People Skills (5 - 10 Yrs)
Can I get along with others?
Again, building on the earlier stages - How being treated
Kind, Empty, Honest
Stage 4: Finding Her Soul (10 - 14 Yrs)
Can I discover my deep-down self and what makes me truly happy?
Identity, value, interests, passion, "spark"
Stage 5: Stepping into Adulthood (14 - 18 Yrs)
Can I take responsibility for my own life?
Practical: manage money, time, eating, clothes, driving, etc
Attitude shift: hold life in her own hands
Stage 1: Security (Birth to 2 Yrs)
Not enough just to be fed and clothed
Am I safe and loved?
Each Stage Asks a Question
About Stages
Stages can overlap
Stages can vary
Decisions about life
As your daughter completes each stage, she comes to a decision about her life - good or bad.
The decisions are profound and life altering.
For parents: don't give up, love your daughter and always try.
Cha 8 Mean Girls
What to do
Victim
No: hit back
Yes: verbally respond
Increasing confidence can turn the crisis to a growing opportunity
Bystander
speak up
Stand alongside with victims
Small but strong
physical bully
non-physically bully
cyberbully
making faces
excluding
spreading rumors
Cha 7 Too Sexy Too Soon
What to do
No TV in br
Consciously decide what you view
Cha 10 Alcohol and Other Drugs
What do do
caring conversations
firmness around where you are and with whom
friendly but clear negotiations about proving you are able to stay safe
Don't give drinks to underage kids
Don't drink when you are stressed
Have a definite deal about getting home
Cha 11 Girls and the Online World
What do do
show a positive interest in the technology your child is using
No FB account until they are 13
Place the device in a public place
Set limits on the usage
Communicate on what distresses them
Intervene
Stay connected
Know the law