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Dgls Relationship 12/21 - 1/22 - Coggle Diagram
Dgls Relationship
12/21 - 1/22
(1) What's wrong
Lack of security
Loss of trust
omissions
felt as lies
Feel he does what he wants;
not interested in my input
blindsided
"I can do better"
(CL-ALT)
We could
fall apart
I tend to bail
can't see each
other's point of view
Hard to stay
vulnerable
Philosophies
I don't share
The more
partners
the better
"No threat"
less time
won't matter
No check-ins
needed or desired
what is done without
me has nothing
to do with me
Unprepared
unexpected/
unwelcome
version of me
wrongly assumed
we felt the same
current experience of NRE
lack of desire for
another this soon
felt betrayed
exceptional intensity
fosters unwelcome drama?
strong negative emotions
dislike this version of me
Hard to scale back
can't find
balance
wonderful
when connected
unpleasant when
little connection
'watered down'
not satisfying
very seductive
(2) My needs
be worth consideration
discuss prior to changes
adjust when possible
legitimacy of my view accepted
Trust
understand
what is going on
other
relationships
My questions
no blindsides
no omissions
his desires
inform
if wanting
change
Self-work
don't assume
detach the baby sister script
understand
myself
take ownership
feel the hurt
no blame
accept my reality
understand
the box
make informed decision
modifications possible?
maintain vulnerability
(3) How
to mend
Open the boxes
understand
other relationships
my questions
Discuss
meaning and value
get permission
Understand
consequences
his
mine
communicate issues
I
have
to express feelings & needs
No blame
Avoid hurt
Find solutions
negotiate trust-making
share information
frequent check-in
agreement on
no omissions
risk discomfort
details clarified
know who
& when
Reliable calendar
Foster his best life
embrace flexibility
& compromise
appreciate
efforts made
Understand his
needs & desires
keep checking in
provide support
acknowledge
Add joy
pursue compersion
resolve barriers
know metamores?
talk with others
keep this goal