Happiness
- Misconceptions about Happiness
- Why our expectations
are so Bad?
- How can we overcome
our biases? (Strategies)
- Stuff that really
makes us happy
- Putting strategies into practice
Things we think
will make us happy (but don't)
Misc
Illusions
Visual (Different orientations of desks)
Miswanting
Good Job
Money
Awesome stuff
True Love
Perfect Body
Good Grades
G. I. Joe Fallacy
- Thwart Hedonic Adaptation
Savoring
Annoying features
of the Mind
- Our minds' strongest intuitions
are often totally wrong.
- We judge ourselves relative to
reference points which are often
irrelevant and make us feel worse than we should.
- Minds are programmed to adapt and
ultimately get used to things
- We don't realize that our minds are built to get used to stuff. (We don’t realize how good we are at
adapting and coping and
mis-predict how certain outcomes will make us feel.)
Life Happiness = Genetics 50% + Circumstances (/Life happens) 10% + Actions/Thoughts (/Mindfulness) 40%
The Ponzo illusion
Knowing is half the battle.
cognitive biases
Kindness and Social Connection
The act of being mistaken about
what and how much
you will like something in the future.
Our minds don't think
in terms of absolutes.
Ebbinghaus illusion
Silver vs Bronze medal winner
Social Comparison
Material Culture
Hedonic adaptation
The Process of becoming accustomed to a positive or negative stimulus such that the emotional effects of that stimulus are attentuated over time.
Impact Bias
The tendency to overestimate
the emotional impact of a future event
both in terms of intensity and its duration.
- Focalism
- Immune neglect
Investing in experiences than stuffs
- Reset Reference Points
Better wanting #1
Things you should want
but don't want
- Good Job
- Signature Strengths
- Increasing Flow
- Good grades
Good mindset
- Growth mindset (vs Fixed mindset)
- Intrinsic motivation (vs Extrinsic)
Don't focus on grades. They are outcome. Focus on grades can enhance i) fixed mindset and ii) extrinsic motivation.
Better Wanting #2
Wanting better stuff
that we don't want yet
- Kindness
Money donation
Time affluence
Personal connection
Social Connection
Healthy Practices
1.Exercises
Physical fitness
Cognitive mind
- Sleep