Family Conflicts
Between siblings
Competition
Between parents
Siblings trying to outperform each other.
Trying to get more attention from the parents.
Unequal treatments from parents
One sibling gets something better based on certain conditions.
Difference in age
Difference in age can cause conflicts between siblings.
Property
Siblings share space and things and they sometimes borrow each other things. They can lead to conflict.
Differences in personality
There are 2 different opinions so it leads to a conflict.
Lack of awareness of one's responsibility
Misunderstanding of each other's jobs in the family.
Unfaithfulness
Not trusting or being faithful in one another person.
Lack of time for each other
Not having enough time for each other.
Not spending enough time with only each other
Violence
Using violent to solve problems
Acting on emotions
Incompatibility relatives
Having problems between extended families.
Between parents and children
Behaviors of parents
Parents are too strict.
Expectations
Parents have high expectations.
Too much complaints can cause stress on kids.
Friend choice
Parents don't want their child to be with their friends because they think that friends will influence their child negatively.
Generation gap
Parents having a hard time accepting their child growing up.
How to prevent conflicts
Love and care
Build trust for each other.
Good communication skills
Talk with each other so you understand each other
Accountability of behavior
Behave nicely to each other
Adapt oneself
Change behaviors to live well together
Awareness of emotions
Manage your emotions
Avoidance of violance
Avoid solving problems using violence.
Understand rules
Understand the rules and don't break the rules.
How to resolve conflicts
Express your feelings directly.
Express your true feelings
Talk when you are ready to talk.
Only talk when you are ready to.
Discuss only the present problem
Only talk about the present problem. Don't talk about problems that has already been resolved.
Give the other person to explain their reasoning.
Give a chance for other person to explain why they did it.
Make sure that both sides understand each others point of view.
Both sides have to understand each other point of view.
Be ready to compromise
Have to be ready to compromise with other person.
Have a goal to build a happy family
Have a goal to be a happy family together. If one doesn't want to build a happy family then it won't work.
Summaries
Conflicts are normal in our lives. We have to prevent them from happening. Having conflict might lead to bigger arguments. So it is very important to prevent or try to resolve it. A very important reason why you should prevent or resolve conflict is because it teaches kids that behavior. If parents get in a conflict with each other and kids see it then the kids might do what they see their parents do. Knowing how to resolve conflicts will make the kids learn how to resolve it in their future and get through it easier.