What is self regulation?

Can you identify when you experience different emotions?

How easy can you control yourself when you get angry?

Have you gotten to have problems with the way you express your emotions?

Paola G: For me it is very difficult to control myself, specially when I am very angry because most of the time I do not think before acting, so I react very compulsively. When I get very angry is because is not easy for me to let go the situation, and that is why I react like that, so controlling myself when I am that angry is like impossible. But is something that I know I need to and I have been working on controlling my anger in order to live more relaxed and with less anger.

Ana Paola: Most of the time it is easy for me to control my anger. I tend to get more serious when I am angry and regulating myself, but at the end of the day I end up controlling myself.

Adrián: I think that I can easily control myself when I am feeling angry, I just need to take a deep breath and try to calm myself. Later on the day, I try to reflect and analyze the reasons or causes that made me feel angry, in order to find a possible solution (if there is one) or know what would my next move in the situation will be.

Adrián: When I am experiencing one emotion because of a situation, I can easily identify it, specially when it is a strong emotion. However, there are situations on which I experience several emotions simultaneously, and in those type of cases is when I sometimes have problems to identify which are all of the emotions that I am feeling at the moment. When feeling different emotions at the same time, it may be kind of overwhelming for ourselves and as well it's not that easy to identify each and all of the emotions we are experiencing.

Paola G: Personally, I sure can identify when I am experiencing different emotions, because I tend to show a lot my emotions with my actions, so it is easy for me to denitrify when I am sad, angry, or experiencing something else. I try not to get deep down with my emotions, is a subject that I prefer not to give it a lot of thought, but despite that, I still know how to identify my different emotions and of course know when I experience each one of them.

Ana Paola: It depends on the situation. Sometimes I can be feeling different emotions at the same time and easily identify what I'm feeling. However, if a situation is more intense, or is a situation I usually don't experience, I tend to feel so many more emotions at the same time that I am unable to identify what is exactly what I'm feeling.

Do you talk to someone when you feel sad?

Ana Paola: Definitely, I have had different problems mostly when I can't control my anger. I usually try to regulate myself when I'm angry, but sometimes I have trouble doing so and end up saying things that are out of place, or that may be hurtful to someone else.

Adrián: Not really, I always try to regulate my emotions and don't let them get out of control. The only thing is that sometimes it may be difficult for me to express my own emotions and talk about them with other people.

Paola G: Many times, as I said in a previous question, I've had a hard time controlling my emotions because I normally react very compulsively and don't express them in the best way, and this ways may affect other people physically or verbally; so I think I is super important to learn how to express them in order to not hurt other people and myself, which is also important.

Ana Paola: I usually try to avoid those conversations and keep it all to myself. Luckily, I have a partner that knows me very well and notices when I am feeling sad, so once they approach the topic I have the confidence to talk about what is going on.

Paola G: As I have mentioned, the subject of my emotions is not a subject that I feel comfortable thinking a lot about it, much less talking about it. I don't think I feel sad very often, I either feel angry or happy, but feeling sad is not very common. But when I feel sad and is something that is worrying me a lot, I talk about it with my mom, she is the one I have more confidence to talk about those things.

Adrián: Depends on the situation, but I usually try to talk to someone when I'm feeling sad, mostly my friends and sometimes with my mother.

Do you think you can regulate your emotions without this causing you anxiety or anguish?

Ana Paola: I can do it, but sometimes it is a hard process for me. Usually, when I'm facing sensitive situations I find myself feeling a lot of emotions at the same time, so I've been trying to learn how to regulate my emotions by asking my friends and mentos for some advice.

Adrián: Yes, think I can do it, however I still believe that it may be a difficult process. Dealing with our emotions sometimes may be confusing, specially when we are passing through situations that are new to our lives. I think that talking to our family members or to a health specialist, could be the key tor regulate our emotions without anxiety or being worried

Paola G: I do think I can regulate my emotions without it causing me anxiety or anguish, because I consider I do not have a "bad" relationship with them, so I do not think regulate them can lead to something bigger like anxiety or anguish. If I learn to regulate my emotions in the best possible way, and here can be included with the help of specialists or family, things like anxiety can be avoided for my own good.

Do you think you can educate yourself on emotions?

How can we develop social skills?

Adrián: Definitely yes, I strongly think that we can educate ourselves on our emotions everyday by getting to know our most common feelings, and trying to understand them, this will help us to know how to act when this type of emotions come up again.

Ana Paola: For sure, it is something we learn since we are little, but as we grow up we need to educate ourselves more in order to be able to regulate our emotions in a better way.

Paola G: I believe we can educate ourselves on our emotions, because we experience them each and every day and this helps to know each emotion very well like the palm of my hand, so what a better way to educate myself by knowing what we are dealing with. But I also think that we do not always know everything about our emotions or how to handle them, so the experience of specialists can help us a lot to educate us better on our emotions.

Adrián: I think that we can develop social skills by simply adventuring ourselves in new experiences, where we can interact with people that may be very different than us but that as well can enrich our social skills. As well, I think that it is important to observe the people in our surroundings, get to know their skills and maybe adopt some of them, the ones that we find more useful.

Ana Paola: We can develop social skills by trying to get out of our comfort zone, like talking to people we usually don't talk to, participate in different social activities, or events, or just by trying to interact more with our families, or the people we live with.

Paola G: I think we can develop social skills by interacting with people, because in our day-to-day we interact with different people with different personalities or different ways to work, with whom we experience either good or bad situations, and this situations make us learn from them and of course develop social skills in order to apply them in the next situations.

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