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The gaslight effect - Coggle Diagram
The gaslight effect
Truth
Non-gaslighter
confirms his discomfort may be caused by his own insecurities
Gaslighting
insidious
works only when you believe what the gaslighter says
can happen in any type of relationship
Gaslighter
never considers that his own jealousy insecurity, or paranoia might be involved.
has a flawed sense of self
some of them may believe they are saving you from yourself
has to prove that he is right
either gender
Gaslightee
will be treated
hours of anger
coldness
hurt feelings
seemingly reasonable criticism
desperate to win approval
willing to do anything to make things right
accepting negative and critical views
Types
The glamour gaslighter
The good-guy gaslighter
The intimidator
Stages
Stage 2: defense
feels obsessive
desperate
has to find a way to show her opinions
feels terrible about herslef
alternates: both of the gaslighter and the gaslightee
switch roles entirely
each of them keeps trying to be right/ get the other's approval
Stage 3: depression
the most difficult of all
actively tryong to prove the gaslighter is right
exhausting
too worn out to argue
Stage 1: disbelief
think you're misunderstand
"maybe he was just joking"
"am I being too sensitive?"
History
The old movie Gaslight (1944)
Paula & Gregory
Gregory was trying to drive her insane in order to take over her inheritance
Paula begins to act hysterical
Notion
Factor
Relationships between two people
Gaslighter
needs to be right in order to preserve his own sense of self
needs to be right in his senses of having power in the world
Gaslightee
allows the gaslighter to define her senses of reality
idealizes gaslighter
seeks for gaslighter's approval