Week 9
Peer Groups
Peer groups are significant socializers, contributing beyond the influence of family and school because
They satisfy certain belonging needs
They are often preferred to other socializing agents
They influence not only social development but cognitive and psychological development as well.
Adding Up the Assets
Another kind of asset that will help your children succeed
The wealth of happy memories
The wealth of family time
The wealth of caring relationships
The wealth of opportunities to serve
These assets...
Give children strength during difficult times
Contribute to their emotional health and well-being
Help children grow
40 Developmental Assets
20 External Assets
Things that make up a positive, healthy environment
Supportive family
Living in a caring neighborhood
Attending a supportive school
Feeling safe in the surroundings
Having appropriate rules and consequences
Spending time at home, in extracurricular activities and at church
20 Internal Assets
The values, skills, and beliefs that children hold. The assets that make up a child's strength of character.
Loving to read and learn new things
Caring about others and looking for ways to help
Can include a child's strength to stand up for their beliefs or say "no" to negative peer pressure.
Based on knowing who you are and what you stand for
Investing in your Child's Emotional Assets
Support
Commitment to learning
Empowerment
Positive values
Boundaries and Expectations
Social competencies
Constructive use of time
Positive identity
Cliques, Crowds, and Conformity
Over the course of adolescence, changes in peer, group structures take place with same-sex cliques
All high schools have cliques and crowds, although the labels that they use may differ
A Cass Divided
They let a few people do their fighting for them and they stand back and if this person's going to win, then they'll get on this side.
We see a few people who are making a lot of noise and the rest of the people sitting back waiting to see what they're going to do.
You don't have to be black or Jewish or Mexican or anything else to have felt discrimination in your life, and as you become an adult, you learn to deal with those feelings within yourself and you learn to handle those.
How society could be if we really believed all this stuff that we preach, if we really acted that way
They found out how to hurt one another and they found out how it feels to be hurt in that way and they refuse to hurt one another in that way again.