Bros Before Hos -- The Guy Code - Coggle Diagram
Bros Before Hos -- The Guy Code
What does it mean to be a man/woman?
A woman's response is usually "Whatever I want."
A man's response is usually somewhere along the lines of "Don't cry," never show feelings, never ask for directions, never give up, be strong, be aggressive, show no fear, show no mercy, get rich, get even, and get laid.
The Guy Code
never showing emotions
never admitting to weakness
show the face that everything is fine, under control, and there's nothing to be concerned about
"Winning is crucial..."
"Kindness is not an option, nor is compassion."
4 Basic Rules of Masculinity
"No Sissy Stuff."
"Be a Big Wheel."
"Be a Sturdy Oak."
"Give 'em Hell."
Guys hear these rules and standards from the men present in their lives.
Men adopt these standards because they want to be "positively evaluated by other men."
"Masculinity is largely a "homosocial" experience: performed for, and judged by, other men."
"Women have, in men's minds, such a low place on the social ladder of this country that it's useless to define yourself in terms of a woman."
"While women often become a kind of currency by which men negotiate their status with other men, women are for possessing, not for emulating."
The Gender Police
The peers around you are silently waiting for you to "screw up."
"The possibilities of being unmasked are everywhere."
having to maintain a manly facade
The most degrading thing you can say to a man is "faggot". "Faggot" is used in terms of stripping away a mans manhood.
Homosexuality is the fear of being a 'fraud' in the eyes of other men.
Guys know that they risk everything if they fail to 'conform'.
Psychological Development and Where the Guy Code Begins
being a mama's boy will emasculate a boy
learn to act in a way of pushing away from their mothers
early age boys are taught to refrain from crying
because of being taught at a young age to suppress their feelings, boys end up feelings emotionally isolated
"The Boy Code leaves boys disconnected from a wide range of emotions and prohibited from sharing those feelings with others."
boys turn to violence because they feel that is the only way to justly express their feelings
boys are more likely to have ADHD, get into fights, emotionally disturbed, prone to suicide, depression, and various out-of-control or out-of-touch behaviors