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Chapter 8: Peer Relationships - Coggle Diagram
Chapter 8: Peer Relationships
Lesson 1:Safe and Healthy Relationships
Peer relationships
Friendships
Attributes: Similar values, interests, beliefs, and attitudes.
Open and honest communication
Mutual respect, caring and support
Concern about each others safety and well being.
Casual and Close Friendships: Someone with whom you share interests,but not deep emotional bonds.
Platonic Friendships: A friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple.
Online Friendships: The internet has created good opportunities to connect with others, but people can fake it online so you need to be weary.
Building Strong Friendships
Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, caring, honesty, and commitment.
Additional traits of friendship include: Empathy, fairness, shared interests, acceptance, support, and loyalty.
Recognizing problems in relationships
Cliques
A small circle of friends usually with similar backgrounds or tastes who exclude people viewed as outsiders.
Managing feelings of envy or jealousy
Envy and jealousy can really harm a relationship. If you feel this way, ask yourselves these questions: what is making me jealous, and what positive qualities make this person a good friend.
When friendships change
At some point, you will grow apart from your friends, and here are some signs that you should. A friend pressures you to do something that goes against your values, they insult you, and if they are always trying to change your beliefs.
Lesson 2: Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills
Resisting Negative peer pressure
Passive and Aggressive Responses
Passive communicators are unwilling or unable to express their thoughts and feelings
Aggressive people may get their way, but most people react to aggression by fighting back or by avoiding the individual completely
Assertive Refusal
Step 1: State your position on the item, or activity.
Step 2: Suggest alternatives to help.
Step 3: Stand your ground.
When using assertive refusal you state your position and ground while acknowledging others rights.
Peer Pressure
Positive Peer Pressure
Positive peer pressure may motivate you to try new activities that can benefit all sides of your health triangle
Negative Peer Pressure
Peer pressure may be against someones beliefs and their values, two ways to exert negative peer pressure are manipulation and harassment.
manipulation: an indirect way to influence people
harassment: persistently annoying others
Peer Pressure: Influence people your age have on you
Lesson 3: Practicing Abstinence
Considering The Consequences
Effects on Social Health
Sexually active teens may deprive themselves from new activities and from meeting with friends
Effects on Physical Health
Abstinence is the only 100% way of protecting yourself from STD's
STD: (sexually transmitted disease) infectious diseases spread by having sexual contact
Staying abstinent is also the only sure way of not having an unwanted pregnancy
Effects on Mental/Emotional Health
guilt from lying to parents
loss of self respect
regret and anxiety
Abstinence
Abstinence does not mean doing without intimacy, but holding back infatuation, and keeping self-control. By choosing abstinence, you are taking responsibility in life.
Infatuation: Exaggerated feelings of passion
Self-Control: A persons ability to use responsibility to over-ride emotions.
Intimacy: a closeness between two people that develops over time
To prevent these feelings, set limits, communicate with your partner, talk with a trusted adult, seek low pressure dating situations, and date someone who shares and respects your values.
Dating Decisions
Setting limits
Parents and guardians may set limits regarding dating relationships. These limits are intended to protect your health and safety.
Setting limits before dates can ensure safety and a positive dating expeience.
The most important limit to set is abstinence because it will safeguard your health and safety.
Priorities: the goals, tasks, values,and activities that you judge to be more important than others.
Committing to Abstinence
Use Refusal Skills:
Say no to peer pressure by using refusal skills such as assetive refusal.
Recommitting to Abstinence:
Returning to abstinence is a positive alternative to previous sexual behavior