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significantly increased self-confidence
come to know yourself in a deeper, more meaningful way
unique contribution capacity
you live your values :
infuse you with
define yourself from within,
by people's opinions
by comparisons to others
care less about what others think of you
care more about what others think of themselves
what others think of
no longer build your emotional life on
there is something
some core deep within
HABIT 1 - Be Proactive
PRINCIPLES OF PERSONAL VISION
no more encouraging fact
unquestionable ability of man
elevate his life
stand apart from yourself.
into a comer of the room
in your mind's eye, reading
This is why
we can evaluate
from others' experiences as well as our own.
why we can make and break our habits
Think about the mood you are now in.
how your mind is working.
how we see other people
map of the basic nature of mankind
to understand how others see and feel about themselves and their world
we take into account
how we see ourselves
how we see others)
project our intentions on
project our intentions on
call ourselves objective
our personal potential
our ability to relate to others
the people around us
the reflection in the crazy mirror room at the carnival
out of proportion.
more projections than reflections
giving the input
rather than accurately reflecting what we are
we are largely determined by
we have no control over that influence
three theories of determinism
Pavlov's experiments with dogs.
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose
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the last of the human freedoms
What are the properties which make us different from animals
to create in our minds
our present reality
a deep inner awareness of
right and wrong
the ability to act
based on our self-awareness
free of all other influences.
more than merely taking initiative
responsible for our own lives
behavior is a function of our decisions
not our conditions
subordinate feelings to values.
Reactive people are driven by
the essence of the proactive person.
subordinate an impulse to a value
carefully thought about
there are three central values in life
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choose our response tb particular circumstances
take interest and aptitude tests
study the industry
the specific problems the organizations they are interested in are facing
to develop an effectivepresentation showing how their abilities can help solve the organization's problem
does not mean
recognizing our responsibility
to make things happen
discover and unleash
more solidmore creative
PARADIGMS and PRINCIPLES
how perceptions are formed
how they govern the way we see,
how the way we see governs how we behave
high expectations lead to improved performance in a given area.
the sociopsychological phenomenon
someone "predicting" or expecting something
and this "prediction" or expectation coming true simply because the person believes
if we wanted to change the situation, we first had to change ourselves.
to start with the most inside part of self
that private victories precede public victories, t
a process---a continuing process of renewal based on the natural laws
govern human growth and progress
Two kinds of ethics
basic principles of effective living
people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and
integrate these principles into their basic character
attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human
took two paths
human and public relations techniques
positive mental attitude (PMA)
having an optimistic disposition in every situation in one's life
attracts positive changes
education in the field of influence strategies
these are secondary, not primary traits.
Personality VS. Character Ethics example
Paradigm & paradigm shift
the way we "see" the world
in terms of
principles of methods, rules, and postulates employed by a discipline
systematic study of methods
are, can be, or have been applied within a discipline
branch of philosophy
concepts such as existence, being, becoming, and reality.
Two kinds of maps in our mind
maps of the way things are
move us from one way of seeing the world to another.
Paradigms are inseparable from character.
In the human dimension
what we see
Principles VS practice VS values
deep, fundamental truths that have universal application
specific activity or action
Principles VS values
Values are maps
Principles are the territory
the ability to respond in
in the face of intense emotional experience
feeling one's way deeper into the emotion
allows access to implicit functional processes driving action'
How to build
Ask yourself "Why?" Then find your answer. .
Put yourself first.
physical self. ..
Decide, commit, and act
Don't let fear factor into your decision making
Embrace what scares you
De-clutter your mind.
Become your own best friend
in the borrower
because it reinforces dependence on external factors to get things done.
in the person forced to acquiesce
stunting the development of
in the relationship
Fear replaces cooperation
both people involved become more arbitrary and defensive
there are times to teach and times not to teach
relationships are strained
the air charged with emotion,
perceived as a form of judgment and rejection
take the child
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ARISTOTLE
Habits are like a cable. We weave a strand of it everyday and soon it cannot be broken
composite of our habits
Sow a thought
reap an action
Why habits are important
they are consistent
they constantly, daily, express our character
produce our effectiveness ... or ineffectiveness.
can be learned and unlearned
it isn't a quick fix
involves a process
a tremendous commitment
to break out of the tremendous gravity pull of the earth
More energy was spent
in the first few minutes of lift-off
the intersection of
the what to do
knowledgethe theoretical paradigm
how to do.
the want to do.
an upward process
the paradigm of you
to get what they want.
I would need you to help me
sense of worth and security
would come from your opinion of me
I would count on you
to do my thinking for me
to think through the issues and problems of my life
is a personal maturity issue
has little to do with circumstances.
the paradigm of I
can get what they want
through their own effort
I could pretty well make it on my own.
think my own thoughts
move from one level of abstraction to another
could think creatively and analytically
organize and express my thoughts in understandable ways.
validated from within
My sense of worth would not be a function of
empowers us to act rather than be acted upon
frees us from our dependence on circumstances and other people
is a worthy, liberating goal.
the paradigm of we
combine their own efforts with the efforts of others
to achieve their greatest success.
self-reliant and capable,
also realize that you and I working together
can accomplish far more
derive a great sense of worth within myself,
recognize the need for
receiving love from others
need the best thinking of other people to join with my own.
have the opportunity to share myself deeply, meaningfully, with others,
they are based on principles
bring the maximum long-term beneficial results possible.
basis of a person's character
effectively solve problems
empowering center of correct maps
continually learn and integrate other principles in an upward spiral of growth.
true effectiveness is a function of two things P/PC Balance
what is produced
the producing asset
P stands for production of desired results
capacity to produce
PC stands for production capability
insensitive and inconsiderate
neglecting the little kindnesses and courtesies
use control levers to manipulate each other
look for evidence to show the wrongness of the other person
justify their own position
preserving the relationship
softnesslook for evidence to show the wrongness of the other personspontaneity
parent's relationship with a child
When children are little
neglect the PC work
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use of physical assets
the human assets of an organization
the customers and the employees.
always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.
You can buy his back, but you can't buy his brain.
focus on their own needs