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PRIVATE VICTORY
Effects
significantly increased self-confidence
come to know yourself in a deeper, more meaningful way
nature
deepest values
unique contribution capacity
you live your values :
sense of
identity
control
inner-directedness
infuse you with
exhilaration
peace
define yourself from within,
by people's opinions
by comparisons to others
care less about what others think of you
care more about what others think of themselves
what others think of
themselves
their worlds
no longer build your emotional life on
change
easier
more desirable
because
there is something
some core deep within
HABIT 1 - Be Proactive
PRINCIPLES OF PERSONAL VISION
no more encouraging fact
unquestionable ability of man
elevate his life
self-awareness
stand apart from yourself.
to project
your consciousness
into a comer of the room
see yourself
in your mind's eye, reading
This is why
we can evaluate
learn
from others' experiences as well as our own.
why we can make and break our habits
Think about the mood you are now in.
how your mind is working.
self-paradigm
affects
attitudes
behaviors
how we see other people
map of the basic nature of mankind
to understand how others see and feel about themselves and their world
we take into account
how we see ourselves
how we see others)
Unaware
project our intentions on
project our intentions on
their behavior
call ourselves objective
limits
our personal potential
our ability to relate to others
SOCIAL Miror
social paradigm
the people around us
opinions
perceptions
paradigms
the reflection in the crazy mirror room at the carnival
visions
disjointed
out of proportion.
more projections than reflections
giving the input
rather than accurately reflecting what we are
we are largely determined by
conditioning
conditions
we have no control over that influence
social maps
three theories of determinism
Determinism
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Genetic
Psychic
Environmental
stimulus/response theory
Pavlov's experiments with dogs.
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose
responsibility-
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Viktor Frankl
the last of the human freedoms
What are the properties which make us different from animals
self-awareness
imagination
to create in our minds
beyond
our present reality
conscience
a deep inner awareness of
right and wrong
proactivity
the ability to act
based on our self-awareness
free of all other influences.
proactivity
more than merely taking initiative
responsible for our own lives
behavior is a function of our decisions
not our conditions
subordinate feelings to values.
have
the initiative
the responsibility
Reactive
Reactive people are driven by
feelings
circumstances
conditions
their environment
the essence of the proactive person.
subordinate an impulse to a value
values
carefully thought about
selected
internalized
there are three central values in life
experiential
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creative
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attitudinal
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empowers us
create circumstances
choose our response tb particular circumstances
solution selling
take interest and aptitude tests
study the industry
the specific problems the organizations they are interested in are facing
to develop an effectivepresentation showing how their abilities can help solve the organization's problem
Taking initiative
does not mean
being
pushy
obnoxious
aggressive
recognizing our responsibility
to make things happen
PUBLIC VICTORY
Effects
discover and unleash
the desire
resources
Relationship
deteriorated
broken
more solidmore creative
more adventure-some
RENEWAL
AFTERWORD
Introduction
PARADIGMS and PRINCIPLES
Inside-Out
Subject
how perceptions are formed
how they govern the way we see,
how the way we see governs how we behave
expectancy theory
high expectations lead to improved performance in a given area.
Steps
self-fulfilling prophecies
the sociopsychological phenomenon
someone "predicting" or expecting something
and this "prediction" or expectation coming true simply because the person believes
it will
Definition
if we wanted to change the situation, we first had to change ourselves.
to start with the most inside part of self
paradigms
character
motives
that private victories precede public victories, t
a process---a continuing process of renewal based on the natural laws
govern human growth and progress
Two kinds of ethics
Character Ethic
basic principles of effective living
people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and
integrate these principles into their basic character
Personality Ethic.
public image
attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human
interaction
took two paths
human and public relations techniques
positive mental attitude (PMA)
having an optimistic disposition in every situation in one's life
attracts positive changes
education in the field of influence strategies
these are secondary, not primary traits.
Personality VS. Character Ethics example
School
Cramming
Agriculture
Paradigm & paradigm shift
Definition
model
theory
mean
perception
assumption
frame
the way we "see" the world
in terms of
perceiving
understanding
interpreting
Maps
Parts
Epistemology
methodology
analysis
principles of methods, rules, and postulates employed by a discipline
systematic study of methods
are, can be, or have been applied within a discipline
Ontology
branch of philosophy
concepts such as existence, being, becoming, and reality.
Axiology
Two kinds of maps in our mind
realities
maps of the way things are
values
Subtopic
paradigm shifts
move us from one way of seeing the world to another.
Paradigms are inseparable from character.
Being
is seeing
In the human dimension
what we see
Principles VS practice VS values
Principles
deep, fundamental truths that have universal application
Practice
specific activity or action
situationally specific,
Principles VS values
Values are maps
Principles are the territory
Emotional Strength
Definition
the ability to respond in
open
vulnerable
in the face of intense emotional experience
feeling one's way deeper into the emotion
allows access to implicit functional processes driving action'
How to build
Ask yourself "Why?" Then find your answer. .
Put yourself first.
Train your
mentalbody
physical self. ..
emotionalbody
Decide, commit, and act
Don't let fear factor into your decision making
Embrace what scares you
De-clutter your mind.
Become your own best friend
Borrowing strength
builds weakness.
in the borrower
because it reinforces dependence on external factors to get things done.
in the person forced to acquiesce
stunting the development of
independent reasoning
growth
internal discipline
in the relationship
Fear replaces cooperation
both people involved become more arbitrary and defensive
there are times to teach and times not to teach
Not
relationships are strained
the air charged with emotion,
perceived as a form of judgment and rejection
Is
take the child
alone
quietly
Characteristics
principle-centered
character-based
Habits
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ARISTOTLE
Habits are like a cable. We weave a strand of it everyday and soon it cannot be broken
OUR CHARACTER
composite of our habits
Sow a thought
reap an action
thought
action
habit
destiny
Why habits are important
they are consistent
they constantly, daily, express our character
produce our effectiveness ... or ineffectiveness.
can be learned and unlearned
it isn't a quick fix
involves a process
a tremendous commitment
to break out of the tremendous gravity pull of the earth
More energy was spent
in the first few minutes of lift-off
Definition
the intersection of
knowledge
the why
the what to do
knowledgethe theoretical paradigm
skill
how to do.
desire
the motivation
the want to do.
being/seeing change
an upward process
maturity continuum
dependence
the paradigm of you
need others
to get what they want.
physically dependent-
I would need you to help me
emotionally dependent,
sense of worth and security
would come from your opinion of me
intellectually dependent
I would count on you
to do my thinking for me
to think through the issues and problems of my life
having others
control
define
use
manipulate
is a personal maturity issue
has little to do with circumstances.
Independence
the paradigm of I
can get what they want
through their own effort
I could pretty well make it on my own.
Mentally
think my own thoughts
move from one level of abstraction to another
could think creatively and analytically
organize and express my thoughts in understandable ways.
Emotionally
validated from within
inner directed
My sense of worth would not be a function of
being liked
treated well
empowers us to act rather than be acted upon
frees us from our dependence on circumstances and other people
is a worthy, liberating goal.
Self-Mastery
Interdependence is
the paradigm of we
combine their own efforts with the efforts of others
to achieve their greatest success.
physically
self-reliant and capable,
also realize that you and I working together
can accomplish far more
emotionally
derive a great sense of worth within myself,
recognize the need for
love
giving
receiving love from others
intellectually
need the best thinking of other people to join with my own.
have the opportunity to share myself deeply, meaningfully, with others,
effectiveness
they are based on principles
bring the maximum long-term beneficial results possible.
basis of a person's character
maximize opportunities
effectively solve problems
empowering center of correct maps
continually learn and integrate other principles in an upward spiral of growth.
true effectiveness is a function of two things P/PC Balance
what is produced
the producing asset
P stands for production of desired results
Purchase
capacity to produce
PC stands for production capability
Maintain
marriage
the benefits
insensitive and inconsiderate
neglecting the little kindnesses and courtesies
use control levers to manipulate each other
look for evidence to show the wrongness of the other person
justify their own position
preserving the relationship
love
richness
softnesslook for evidence to show the wrongness of the other personspontaneity
parent's relationship with a child
When children are little
Characteristics
very dependent
very vulnerable
Result
neglect the PC work
training
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communicating
relating
listening
Instead
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ORGANIZATIONAL PC
use of physical assets
the human assets of an organization
the customers and the employees.
always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers.
You can buy his back, but you can't buy his brain.
creativity
ingenuity
resourcefulness
focus on their own needs