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The subtle art of not giving a fuck - Coggle Diagram
The subtle art of not giving a fuck
The book in three sentences:
Not giving a f*ck is about being comfortable with being different and caring about something more important than adversity.
You must give a f*ck about something.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a book that challenges the conventions of self-help by inviting the reader to NOT try, say no often and embrace negative thinking.
The 5 big ideas
When you feel angry about feeling angry or anxious about feeling anxious, you’re stuck in what Manson calls, “The Feedback Loop from Hell.”
However, by not giving a f
ck that you feel bad, you short-circuit the Feedback Loop from Hell; you say to yourself, “I feel like s
it, but who gives a f*ck?”
The key to a good life is not giving a f*ck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
Because there’s an infinite amount of things we can now see or know, there is also an infinite number of ways we can discover that we don’t measure up, that we’re not good enough, that things aren’t as great as they could be. And this rips us apart inside.
Conventional self-help advice focuses on what you’re NOT. Further, it zeros in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and highlights them for you.
main ideas in the book
If you are able to not give a fuck about the pain your goals require, then you become unstoppable.
You are going to die someday. Everyone you know is going to die soon. And in your short life you only have a certain amount of fucks to give.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” -Albert Camus
Finding something important and meaningful in your life is perhaps the most productive use of your time and energy.
Accepting your experience of life as being great and wonderful is the single greatest thing you can do for your happiness.
It’s okay for things to suck some of the time.
We are no longer facing a material crisis. We have plenty of resources: TVs and clothes and goods that we don’t need. The problem we face is existential and spiritual. We have so much stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t know what to give a fuck about anymore.
There is no value in suffering when it is done without purpose.
The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
Happiness is found in solving problems, not avoiding them.
Emotions are simply biological signals designed to nudge you in the direction of beneficial change.
You can’t merely be in love with the result. Everybody loves the result. You have to love the process.
Negative emotions are a sign that something is going unaddressed. They are a call to action. Positive emotions are the reward for taking the correct action.
The problem is that the pervasiveness of technology and mass marketing is screwing up a lot of people’s expectations for themselves.
We should question our emotions because they are not always right.
We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.
“We’re all going to die, all of us. What a circus! That alone should make us love each other, but it doesn’t.” -Charles Bukowski
If there is no reason to do anything, if life is pointless, then there is also no reason to not do anything. What do you have to lose? You’re going to die anyway, so your fears and embarrassments and failures don’t mean anything. You might as well try.
Commitment, in its own way, offers a wealth of opportunity and experiences that would never otherwise be available to you, no matter how many surface level experiences you pursued.
My take-aways
becoming self-aware and understanding your feeling and behaviour, and being able to reflect upon those, is an important part of the process towards becoming a better version of yourself
shitty values are: Pleasure (short-term), material succes, always being right (at least believing you are), staying positive (sometimes you got to admit something sucks and not deny it by staying positive and not givving it attention).
If you are suffering, don't do it for nothing, but make sure you get something out of it. EG sacrificing time today for a better tomorrow
never be too certain. Often we tend to be wrong
People nowadays want to be extraordinary, because only these sort of people get much attention.
pain is part of the process. No pain, no gain and fail your way to succes. (also pain is always temporary, never ever-lasting!)
We are not special in any way. Millions of other people experience the same feeling that you have right now, and millions will feel the same in the future.
The do-something principle: Action - inspirtation - motivation (don't just wait for motivation and than go to action, but just go to action already and everything else willl follow).
Denial and victim mentallity are very common among people, to temporarily run away from their problems
rejection makes your life better (if you dont reject anything, you stand for nothing).
Building a worthy relationship can only happen when there is full trust. Any toxix relationship wont last long.
We as humans should think less and act more because in the end we all die. We could even die today. ''The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.''
Commitment can get you great rewards