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what is binary thinking?, as individuals and people in communities let'…

- - - - Inviting expressions of all emotions—rather than removing people who are disruptive, bothersome, direct, or “escalating”
      - Encouraging conflicting and multi-dimensional truths and stories when they extend from personal experiences (our vantage points can be different without being correct and incorrect)
      - Interpreting stories of harm as ways of discovering possibilities for support, healing, and transformation—rather than evidence that must be proven
      - Offering the same level of support to those who require protective conditions, such as anonymity and confidentiality, while also encouraging open, direct engagement when safety is not an issue
      - Co-creating (and making accessible) mechanisms for people to share their stories and experiences in ways that won’t be manipulated, exploited or weaponized.
    - - Keeping vulnerable information to those who are directly providing support to affected parties such and implement accountability measures
      - Keeping personal details of parties involved anonymous to avoid nonconsensual vulnerability and disposal
      - Mobilizing people to engage in transformation at all levels beyond the individuals or case
      - "exposure isn’t inherently bad and in the case of people who are predatory and resistant to or shielded from systems of accountability, exposure may be the only option"
    - - Instead of isolating, enfolding provides material, social, emotional support for all parties
        
        Isolation can cause self-harm or lashing out and harm others.
      - Asking what kinds of social support would be meaningful to those within the conflict and making plans to provide that support, in ways that are sustainable over a long period of time
        
        Expanding our willingness and capacity to support people we don’t like, understand, agree with, or want to be friends with—how can we extend compassion to those we deemed "not worthy"
        
        Co-creating free and accessible public spaces that are inviting to people across race, gender, class, and the survivor-abuser binary, where connections can be nurtured and trust can be build slowly
    - - harm prevention focuses on consequences and transformation on a larger scale
        
        Shaping a consequence around the specific harm rather than using the harshest consequences immediately.
        
        Addressing the specific harm with opportunities for learning or understanding (such as counseling, support groups, reading groups, etc.)
        
        Creating avenues and opportunities for the person to share their authentic learning and growth and interpreting what is shared generously and with encouragement.
        
        Extending responsibility and action beyond the individual, in ways that expand accountability to the systems and spaces where harm was taught, shaped, encouraged, or forced.
      - punishment is more retribution (eye for an eye)
  - - - a non-punitive way of being, relating, and engaging with each other; it is ending something and creating something new )
- - - - THIS IS NOT TRUE IN MOST CASES
      - We bring this thinking and practice of removal and punishment into our relationships, social circles and communities
      - when cases of harm and violence goes public, we "dispose" of the perpetrator
        
        boycotting
        
        cancel culture
        
        public shaming
        
        sometimes the victims too becomes disposable
        
        we speak on their behalf and take actions for their benefit
        
        how long do we really THINK about these cases?
        
        is IMMEDIATE ACTION to dispose of the problem the only action we can take?
  - - - Usually, instead of removing the ROOT CAUSE
        
        We end up removing individuals or groups of people.
        
        Why is the root cause so hard to find?
- - - - NUANCE DOES NOT MEAN JUST SEEING BOTH SIDES
        
        It is to see beyond it, FOR ALL PARTIES TO CLAIM responsibility for harm done
        
        Working together towards understanding the root cause