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Parenting Course
Positive Discipline
Session 2
Sat 6th June
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Building Families.
Building People
Discipline in Family
:<3:: Mind, Body, Soul
:bike: Exercise
Anger
Anger is essential
Fire that cooks is constructive
Fire that burns is destructive
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Triggers
Bullying
Lying
Stress
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Signs/Warnings
Internal
External
Action
Signs of Hypocrite
Speaks, tells a lie
makes a promise, breaks it
makes a covenant, proves treacharous
quarrels, behaves immature
Knowledge Culture in Family
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Reading Time
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limit screen time
It is like a horse, if you know how to ride it is fine but if you don't it will ride you
Addictive to children
Lessen social family interaction
Behaviour and Causes
Age
Nature
Genetic
Nurture
Context
Role Modelling
Personality Traits
Prophet Muhammad (saw) came to perfect character
Conduct Disorder
Aggressive
Destructive
Deceitful
Violation of Rules
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Parenting Styles
Tough Love
Authoritarian
Laissez-Faire/Liberal
Disengaged
Clear Instructions
Step by Step
Explain what you want to see hear
Check they understand
Role play, practice with child
Tell what she did correctly
Advise what was done incorrectly
Incentives and Sancions
Things to have
Foods to eat
Places to go
Work to do
People to see
They will be rewarded Weekly, Monthly,
List a few Tasks/Household Chores
Make a Chart
Time Out
When child is above 7
Reason for Time Out
Quiet but safe place. 1 min per Age
Time Out when child is quiet
Reason/Purpose
Praise for respectful baheviour
Discipline Sequence
...as well as Smacking
Emotional Wellbeing
Session 3
Sat 13th June
Dr Mahera Ruby
Links
bloomingparenting.com
Approach
Research
Faith Perspective
Community Insight
Notiion of Stories
Analogy of Apple Tree and Butternut Squash and Neglect
My Bubu's Journey
Belonging
Connection
Direction
Family Jigsaw
Prolepsis
Self-esteem
Self efficacy
Moral Compass
Thoughts
What is your story?
Who are you parenting for?
What is your emotional bucket?
Developing Good Neighbourhoods
Part 2
Emotion
Surah Tahrim
Verse 6
working late vs nagging
Broffenburners
Vgotsky: Theories of learning
Fitrah
Seven Habits of Effective Families
Be Proactive
PAUSE
between Stimulus and Action
Allah encourages us to do this through prayer
Circle of Concern
vs Circle of Influence
Every conflict is a signal that a conversation needs to be had
Every mistake is an opportunity to teach and learn
Jannah Lens
Positive Self Talk
Eat, Play, Pray
Stay
"Eat, Sleep, Pray"
Duas:
Surah Ibrahim v40
Rabbij 'alnee muqeemas Salaati wa min zurriyyatee Rabbanaa wa taqabbal du'aaa'
My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.
Fearful parenting vs Faithful Parenting
Role of Fatherhood in parenting a child
Session 4
[Dr Rayes Mushtafa]
Friend/Companionship
Two Perspectves
Peadiatric
$4fathers
Luqman
Yaqub
Nuh
Ismail
Fatherhood is not a position it is a position of responsibility
Father is automatic but fatherhood is attained
RESPONSIBILITY
Holding the umbrella
Not all fathers are ready to give the umbrella
books
rearing positive kid in a negative world (Zig Ziglar)
How we look after our wife
Why is Fatherhood important?
Give them the right environment
Do not mold children but Unfold
Coolness of eyes
Behind the Wall
Part 2: Session 6
Fatherhood Traits
Fatherhood is a role not just a standard
1, Gain knowledge and wisdom
Bringing up child
Knowledge about society and world
Importance of self-learning
Surah Luqman
Allah has elevated the status of Luqman
Muhsin
Relationships within
the family structure
Session 1
Sat 30th May
Children
Aged 0-7
Aged 7-14
Education
Presentation
Feelings and Emotions
Managing our own Anger
Spiritual
Self-talk, dua
Distraction
Prayer/Meditation
Physical
Cooling technique
Movement
Relaxation
Emotional Support during transition
Taught how to express their emotions
Motivate your children
Higher Expectation
Build self-esteem, empathy, confidence
Create a knowledge culture
On screen time with clear boundaries
Disadvantages
Harms
e.g. cyberbullying, pornography
Addictive
Risk of Fortnite
Create reading habits at home
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Book Club
Reading Habits
Bookshelf
Apppreciation/Praise
Praise exactly what you see or hear not general comment
Don't say good boy/bad girl etc
Family Sessions
1-1 Quality Time
Features
f possible, fix this time
Be lively, share your info
Show interest. Do not interfere or criticise
Secondary Children (45mins)
Primary Children (20mins)
Family Dynamics
Emotional Needs of Man vs Woman
Men
Trust
Acceptance
Admiration
Approval
Encouragement
Women
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Caring
Understanding
Respect
Devotion
Validation
Resassurance
Discipline in family
Family sessions
Look after mind,body, soul
Intro to speaker Dr Abdul Bari
Q+A
Same Gender
Send Powerpoint slides
If a child is speaking back that is better than one that is unresponsive
Addiction to Technology
Links
drabdulbari.com
facebook.com/amanaparenting
nidatrust.org.uk
Lost Enlightenment
