The wise are realistic about other people too. They recognize the extraordinary pressures everyone is under to pursue their own ambitions, defend their interests and seek their own pleasures, It can make other people appear extremely mean and purposely evil. but this would be to over-personalize the issue The wise know that most hurt is not intentional. It's a byproduct of the constant collision of blind competing egos in a world of scarce resources. The wise are therefore slow to anger and judge They don't lead to the worst conclusions about what's going on in the minds of others. They will be ready to forgive from a prone sense of how difficult every life is. Harboring as it does so many frustrated ambitions, disappointments and longings. The wise appreciate the pressure people are under, Of course they shouted, of course they were rude, naturally they want to over take on the inside lane The wise are generous to the reasons for which people might not be quite so nice, They feel less persecuted by the aggression and meanness of others because they have a sense of where it comes from. a place of hurt