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Choice Theory: (Basic Needs ((Common 的, can be in conflict) Survival, Love…
Choice Theory:
Basic Needs
(Common 的, can be in conflict) Survival, Love & belonging, Power/Control, Freedom, Fun
Quality World
Album of wants with filter. Unique, changeable , associative & specific. 要 dig out needs behind. Maybe in conflict.
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Principles
(i) Human are motivated to fulfill needs. (ii) Human behaviors are purposeful = choice. (iii) two level of perception: implies knowledge vs give vales.
7 Deadly habbits
Criticizing, Blaming, Complaining, Nagging, Threatening, Punishing, REwarding to control
7 Caring habbits
Supportive Encouraging, LIstening, Acceptting, Trusting, REspecting, Neg differences
我係死囚
Outer world/Perception: 打劫集團行出唻好威, 有錢有面.
Needs for love. 見倒打劫人好有權 , 被贊贊佢眉精眼企, 可迼之材 (need power)
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現在的 Mandy 有 change now needs for love: 有2個女, 又有2nd 任太太. 有好好的家庭生活 佢有做話劇: now 乜叫 power: 幫倒社會.
Intervention
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Doing, Thinking, Physiological respond
十年前既野, not helping. 都好耐啦, 或者講下最近同父母相處係點麻? 好囉嗦? 過去一周有冇例子?
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client ventilate a lot (I am victim, give me empathy) investigate the doing component (x feeling) 咁你有咩反應呀, 而家仲有冇做緊呀?
諗法呢? 可否用自然現象形容下你既感覺 (突然落雨, 無準備,臨濕哂).
Pysiological respond: 心跳. 流冷汗。(唔聽電話? 好嬲, 訓唔著，食唔落野).
Tomorrow? 咁聽左你咁多, 你都期望父母都你講, 女友聽你電話，咁其實有羊你係可以做呀咁?不如一齊諗下oY?
Want
Explore quality of word: what do you want from 新朋狗友, 老闆, 街坊, 學校, 宗教 etc ==> 邊Dfullfill 邊D不能?
Explore perception: 點睇自己, worthy, in control? victim?
呢排你最渴望既係咩呢?
你真正想得到 (父母愛子女, 所以要睇到實 = control)
對方想係你度得到咩?
你點睇呢段關係呢? 期望?
How committed to change?
Level 5: I will do whatever it takes. Level 4: I will do my best.
Level 3: I will try.
Level 2: I would like the outcome, but not the effort 我都想呀但改唔倒
Level 1: I don’t want to be here
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Committed 才去 Planning
SMART: Simple: The plan is uncomplicated and clearly understood Measurable. Behavioural or emotional changes can be measured. Attainable. It is realistically achievable. Repetitive.
E. g. 同父母無吵架地傾5分鍾, 同女友每周未行下山。 去 camp兩日一夜? (unrealistic) 佢父母不準. > Communication skills with parents and. girlfriend. Dev +ve addictive behavior (共同興趣). > client 無咩資訊, worker 應提供
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當善良遇上善良
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Both rich and poor boy (feeling): happy, sense of efficacy.
Thinking: 如果我無法得到, 我會把我有既俾你
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Chun (小津)
Wants
**1. Materialistic pleasure.
- Connect with boyfriend emotionally (miss you, feeling)**
Needs
** 1. Love & sense of security
(Being appreciated, spoiled, cared).
- Power (Pick clients, own a monogamy relationship)**
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Total behavior:
Doing: Keeping the best image
Feeling: Heartbroken, Sour
Thinking: Hair is already wet (already commited, too late to back out)
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Engagement
1/3 Establish Trust:
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Attentive behaviour (Foward lena, Eye contact, Tone of voice - SOFT
Suspend judgment: Worker 有專業 judgement 但係遲D先。Rapport 已建立, client need advice. Your info is imp.
Communicate boundary: no call after office hour. 個案爸爸有婚姻問題, 叫佢揾 IFFC. 不可借錢 (broken record technique).
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愛情就好似衣服, 雖然好多, 但適合既呢, 就只有一件既啫. VCD 盜版. 月亮遠睇好光好圓, 近睇就滿佈洞。失戀? Use of story (第二個人俾衫蓋住, 第三個人埋葬佢)
Listen for change talk & in-control talk (跑唔倒咪行囉, 行唔倒咪爬囉, 點都倒目標架)
Listen for theme: 嘩忙到死, 早午晚都約左各女友!
Do the unexpected. 人人都同佢講吸毒唔好架。你與眾不同呢, 佢會好記得你。”唔緊要, 遲到好過無到呀。都好欣賞你咁趕都唻見我喔”
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FACES: Flexible Adaptive Connect Energize Stable. Compromise 遲到,不遵承諾. Adapt to client culture. 明白佢. OT行8層唐樓不攰. Emotional stable.
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