Toxic Masculinity: Overarching Effect in Society and Relationships
EUPHORIA:
MASCULINITY: CONCEPTUALIZED
A photographer who has worked several projects challenging gender norms. She says that "society tells boy to hold back the tears..." The idea of hyper masculinity is constantly enforced in young boys... -Maud Fernhout. (2015, November 29). What 'Real' Men Cry Like. Retrieved from https://www.thealternativeviewfinder.com/blogposts/whatrealmencrylike
Relationship with Maddy Perez
Male Gaze
MAUD FERNHOUT
Hegemonic Masculinity
Hyper masculinity
Exaggerating Stereotype of Masculinity; no femininity.
Established Exterior of strength and toughness vs. lack of compassion, emotion, and empathy.
In no way , shape, or form can a man have any similarities to a woman based on traditional gender norms
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This man is simply fulfilling a role in society- being the stronger one, but ultimately his own strength begins an oppression on himself.
-Michael, L. (2016, November 29). Hypermasculinity is a plague on the modern man. Retrieved from https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/louis-michael/hyper-masculinity-man_b_13280034.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAMdtzn1TrD0Mwx-JGyyXUlMBz72Ow4xHrPPk8GAln4cMnz6U2Y74proYhdp-ODFoY1XLX_DUIHYN1CCA859d49QWUC6LnTE7fyxSCvfTI0CxpnV0CDbEAjssTL7P1cS1CjE_hA24TmtAjojObH6mbZ6eSOMWJIa57E4ojor2mcwY
Conceptualization- 'a set of values' focused on 'access among men to power, interplay between mens' identity, ideals, interactions, power , and patriarchy'
"gender position is as much 'not gay' as it is 'not female'
Focus on established dominance over females.
Debates over whether the use of violence is a part of the concept of hegemonic masculinity or hypermasculinity.
Jewkes, R., Morrell, R., Hearn, J., Lundqvist, E., Blackbeard, D., Lindegger, G., … Gottzén, L. (2015, November 19). Hegemonic masculinity: combining theory and practice in gender interventions. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4706037/
Violence:
Idea of behaviorisms against female in relationship
Demonstrating Strength and Toughness
Woman's reluctance to speak about violence in relationship. Damages relationship between a man and a woman.
" “You’ll see kindergarten and first-grade boys bringing stuffed animals from home to comfort them amid heir fear of the social demands of school. They’ll even hold hands and put their arms around other boys and girls to show affection and express joy. By second grade, male indoctrination begins. Boys are sissies it hey show fear, pain, or heaven forbid the most taboo expression of all: crying” (Audrey Nelson). -Maud Fernhout. (2015, November 29). What 'Real' Men Cry Like. Retrieved from https://www.thealternativeviewfinder.com/blogposts/whatrealmencrylike
"the position of the camera, which frames and controls the female body image" (Sturken & Cartwright,2018).
The idea of females becoming passive objects...
Sturken, M., & Cartwright, L. (2018). Practices of looking: an introduction to visual culture. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
Characterizing Nate Jacobs
Toxic Masculinity Existing in Visual Culture
Enforces the idea of women being under men and being continuously objectified .
Men have the established power...
Her project: What 'Real' Men Cry Like
Boys having strength, courage, and invincibility.
Never allowed to portray true emotions.
Biology doesn't affect the outcome of men being more emotional, but societal control does.
This is how masculinity becomes toxic to males in society and the idea of toxic masculinity being constantly advertised.
Likes and Dislikes in Women
Job (18)
For me, crying is not showing your weakness. When I cry, I can accept my feelings and I'm able to continue. It makes me stronger.
Aditya (19)
"I used to see myself as strong because I did not cry; now I feel weak because I cannot cry."
"poster boy" and "stereotypical jock" of the Euphoria television show
"Tennis Skirts, Heels, Hated Sneakers, Liked Thigh Gaps, Hated cankles, Liked long necks, slender shoulders, Hated girls who sat like boys, talked like boys, acted like boys, & he hated body hair" (Rue Bennet, Euphoria.) Episode 2 of Euphoria
Remembering the Human Condition. Men cry too.
Nate Jacobs- "loved the crowds" "He didn't like his mother because she was weak and a pushover" "Had a good relationship with his father" (Rue Bennet, Euphoria) Episode 2 of Euphoria.
He is extremely "protective" over his girlfriend; however, their relationship is soon revealed to be toxic as his masculine qualities begin to overwhelm the idea of 'his love.' He is possessive and violent with her, often having rough sex with her and pinning her down in the bed, as well as choking her in a fit of anger. His relationship with his father merely encourages his views on women and their symbol of being weak and helpless.
The final breakdown: His character has been distinguished as borderline psychopathic and extremely masculine. However, the show breaks him away from the "stereotypical jock" label as he suffers an immense breakdown that most viewers didn't expect. The quiet rage and heartbreak over not knowing his own identity finally explodes outward; he has a damaged relationship with his girlfriend where he has finally hurt her, he has been violent towards others, and he feels weak and feeble under his father's grasp.
Cassieruml. (2019, July 18). A Dissection of Toxic Masculinity in "Euphoria". Retrieved from https://www.theodysseyonline.com/a-dissection-of-toxic-masculinity-in-euphoria
Kushwaha, B. (2019, June 27). Deconstructing the Jock on HBO's Euphoria. Retrieved from https://www.lofficielusa.com/film-tv/hbo-euphoria-nate-jacob-elordi-2019
Maurits (19)
The only quote that I have ever had on my wall is one from my favorite TV-show;
Q: 'does it hurt?'
A: 'yes, beautifully'
This two-sentence conversation shows me hat crying is not at all a show of weakness, but rather a moment where someone embraces their emotions, which, if anything, is a sign of strength and should be celebrated.
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The importance: Boys can cry. They can care. They can show empathy and compassion towards others. They can maintain a healthy relationship with women. Societal control needs to end as well as the gender norms that indeed normalize gender masculinity.