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Understanding Interpersonal Communication (Communication Patterns in…
Understanding Interpersonal Communication
Characteristics of Interpersonal
Communication
Mediated Interpersonal Communication
Cyber Relationship - An affiliation between people who know each other only in virtual world
Why People Use Communication Technology
Mediated communication can feel nonthreatening.
Online communication can be validating.
Mediated channels enable communication that would not happen otherwise.
Electronic communication often has a pause option.
Drawbacks of Online Communication
Excessive of online communication use can diminish relationships
Phubbing - A mixture of the words 'phone' and 'snubbing' in which people pay more attention to their devices than they do to the people around them
What Makes Communication Interpersonal?
Interpersonal Communication - Two-way interactions between people who are part of a close and irreplaceable relationships in which they treat each others as unique individuals
Types of Interpersonal Relationships
Romantic Partners
Male and Female Intimacy Styles
Intimacy - A state of closeness between two(or sometimes more) people. Intimacy can be manifested in several ways: physically, emotionally and via shared activities.
Love Language
Acts of Service
Performing Favors
Gifts
Buy gift for loved ones
Quality Time
Time spend with each other physically and aybe non-phisically
Physical Touch
Loving touch may involve a hug, a kiss, a pat on the back, or having sex.
Powerful indicator of intimacy
Affirming Words
Language includes compliments, thanks, and statements that express love and commitment.
Stage of Romantic Relationships
Development Models (of relational maintanence) - Therotical frameworks based on the idea that communication patterns are different in various stages of interpersonal relatonships
Coming Together
Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying
Intergrating
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Begin to express how they feel
Small talks allow us to interact with a wide range of people to determine who is worth getting to know better.
First Encounter
Coming Apart
Diiferntiating
Circumscribing
Stagnating
Avoiding
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Partners started to behaving unemotinally - The relationship became stagnate
COmmunication decrease significantly in quality and quanitty
Desirable to create some distance
Family Relationships
Family - A collection of people who share affection and who think of themselves and present themselves as a family
Siblings
Grandparents and Grandchildren
Parents and Children
Friendship
Types of Friendship
Doing-Oriented Versus Being-Oriented
Low Obligation Versus High Obligation
Low Disclosure Versus High Disclosure
Frequent Contact Versus Occasional Contact
Short-Term Versus Long-Term
Same Sex Versus Other Sex
Youthful Versus Mature
In-Person Versus Mediated
How We Choose Relational Partners
Evaluating Relationship Potential
The person likes and appreciates me.
I admire the person's abilities.
We balance each other out.
The person opens up to me.
We have a lot in common.
I see the person frequently.
The person is physically attractive.
The relationship is rewarding.
Social Exchange Theory - the idea that we seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater or equal to the costs we encounter in dealing with them
Relationship Reality Check
Our priorities change.
Perfection can be a turn-off.
First impressions can mislead.
It's not all about communication, but it's a lot about communication.
Communication Patterns in Relationships
Content and Relational Messages
Content Message - A message that coomunicate information about the subject being discussed
Relational Message - A message that expresses the social relationship between two or more individuals
Dimension Communicated
Affinity - The degree to which people like or appreciate one another. As with all relational messages, affinity is usually expressed nonverbally
A pat on the back or a friendly smile.
Immediacy - The degree of interest and attraction we feel toward and communicate to others. As with all relational messages, imeediacy is usually expressed nonverbally
Respect - The degree to which we hold others in esteem
Control - The social need to influence others
Self-Disclosure in Interpersonal Relationships
Self-Disclosure - The process of deliberately revealing information about oneselfatht is significant and that would not be known by others
Model of Self-Disclosure
Social Penetration model - A theory that describes how intimacy can be achieved via the breath and the depth of self-disclosure
Breath (of self-disclosure) - The ranges of topics about which an individual discloses
Depth (of self-dsiclosure) - The level of personal information a person reveals on a particular topics
The Johari Window - A model that describe the relationship between self-disclosure and self-awareness
Blind - Not known to self; Known to others
Hidden - Known to self; Not known to others
Open - Known to self; Known to others
Unknown - Not knwon to self; Not known to others
Characteristic of Effective Self-Disclosure
Is the disclosure appropriate?
Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?
Is the other person important to you?
Is the disclosure relevant to the situation at hand?
Is the disclosure reciprocated?
Will the effect be constructive?
Is the self-disclosure clear and understandable?
Dialectical Perspective of Interpersonal Relationships
Dialectical Model - The perspective that people in virtually all interpersonal relationships must deal with equally important, simultaneous, and opposing forces such as connection and autonomy, predictability and novelty, and openness versus privacy.
Connection vs Autonomy
The conflicting desires for connection and independence
Openess vs Privacy
Important to maintain some space between yourself and others.
Predictability vs Novelty
Stability is an important need in relationships,
but too much predictability can lead to feelings of staleness and boredom.
Strategies for Managing Dialectical Tensions
Polarization
People find a balance of sorts by each staking a claim at opposite ends of a dialectic continuum.
Segmentation
People compartmentalize different areas of the
relationship.
Alternation
Communicators sometimes alternate between one end of the dialectical spectrum and the other.
Moderation
Characterized by compromises in which
people back off from expressing either end of the dialectical spectrum.
Selection
They respond to one end of the dialectical spectrum and ignore the other.
Reframing
Communicators can also respond to dialectical challenges by reframing them in terms that redefine the situation so that the apparent contradiction disappears
Disorientation
Unable to confront their problems they are said to be disoriented.
Facts of Relationship Maintainence
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Reaffirmation
Acknowledging that dialectical tensions will never disappear and accepting or even embracing the challenges they present.
Denial
One of the least functional responses to dialectical tensions is to deny that they exist.
Metacommunication
Messages (usually relational) that refer to othermessages; coomunication about communication
Lies and Evasions
Altruistic Lies - Deceptions intended to be unmalicious, or even helpful, to the person to whom it is told
Evasion - Evade
full disclosure by being deliberately vague.
Equivocation
Making deliberately ambiguous statements with two or more equally plausible meanings
Hitting
People hint to bring about a desired
response without asking for it directly.
Concelament
Failing to reveal information that is
pertinent to the conversation at hand.
Self-Serving Lies - Attempts to manipulate the listener into believing something that is untrue-not primarily to protect the listener, but to advance the deceiver's agenda.
I was surprised by the word 'phubbing'. Because of this a phrase that perfectly describes the situation when phone and snubbing go together. Because I had seen a lot of situations where the couple went on a date with each other. But all they did was looking at their phone, even during eating time
There isn't anything I should be bothered. But if i hadd to choose, I will choose the Self-descolsure part as they were a little bit difficult to understand
I want to find out more about the Johari Window because the model perfecly describe how peple view us and how us view ourselves