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MOST IMPORTANT REASON - NO END DATE
No end date 'can impact our…
MOST IMPORTANT REASON - NO END DATE
No end date 'can impact our mental health.
It's perfectly ok to feel this way. We're all human and it gets tough when we know we can't have what we want! But when the sadness becomes a daily companion and long distance relationship depression starts to set in, it is important to recognise it.'
The longer you are apart, the more these uncertainties will fester and grow into legitimate crisis.
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Because you’re not constantly around each other... it’s easy to let your mind wander or worry. However, to keep you both grounded and build the foundation your relationship needs, make concrete plans
Anyone who’s been in a long distance relationship can attest to the underlying heartache Having the hope of being together long term can help you ride out the toughest days of being apart from one another. That little bit of hope can go a long way toward making the one you love seem not quite so far away.
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slow agonizing feeling that takes place over months — that feeling that your heart is slowly being carved out of your chest by a butter knife and replaced with Skype calls and open chat window
...when making any long distance relationship work it’s necessary to always have some date that you are both waiting for
The minute you stop having some milestone to look forward to together, it will become harder to maintain the same enthusiasm and optimism for each other.
The minute you stop having some milestone to look forward to together, it will become harder to maintain the same enthusiasm and optimism for each other.
One thing that is true about all relationships is that if they’re not growing, then they’re dying. And this is more important than ever in long distance relationships. You must be evolving towards something. There must be some goal out in front of you that you’re reaching together.
A funny thing happens to humans psychologically when we’re separated from one another... we start to make all sorts of assumptions... that are usually exaggerated or untrue.This can manifest itself in various ways within a long distance relationship... people get insanely jealous or irrationally possessive of their partner
Other people become extremely critical and neurotic that every small thing that goes wrong is an end to the relationship. Like if the power goes out and their partner misses their nightly Skype call, they sit there thinking to themselves that this is it, the relationship’s over, he finally forgot about me.
There’s that old saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Well, I’d edit that to say, “Absence makes the heart fucking psychotic,” Be wary.
A long-distance relationship cannot survive without hope. And for there to be hope, there must be some possibility that you two will one day be together
Without that shared vision of Happily Ever After, everything else will quickly begin to feel meaningless.
Not only must there be some shared vision of a possible future for you together, but you both must also feel as though you’re working toward that vision.
Both of us were battle-worn veterans of failed long-distance relationships, and one of our first conversations was that if we didn’t feel that there was a possibility of us living in the same city again within a year, then there was no point in keeping in touch.
Long distance relationships can only work if both partners put their money where their genitals are. OK, that sounded weird, but what I mean is that you have to make the logistical, life-rearranging commitment to one another for it to have any chance of working
Can it work? Yes, it can. Does it work? Usually, no.
Because we had done this before we immediately made plans to end the distance as soon as possible (six months) and then made the sacrifices to do this. We are married today.
In most cases long distance is a temporary situation that will be resolved eventually. And if that's the scenario, make a timeline so your significant other knows that things are moving forward and that the time spent apart, missing each other, will be completely worth it.
“This not only gives you something to look forward to and helps to build anticipation, but research has found that couples who make future plans are more committed to one another and have longer-lasting relationships.”
“Plan what you’re going to do the next time you’re together, as well as what you want to do in the more distant future,
Whether a relationship survives long distance or not depends on your commitment and your communication skill
There should be an end game or overarching goal for your relationship. Making these plans, can be really fun and also shows that both parties are making efforts to keep things moving forward and maintain one another as a priority.
Unless you’re happy living the rest of your life without your long distance partner full-time, there is no point in sticking things out. Relationship experts say long distance romances only work if there is an “end date” in sight. Keep that in mind when laying out your expectations. And be sure to lay out your wants and needs right from the beginning before things get too deep.
At some point, the long distance romance must come to a close. One person must relocate to where the other lives. Otherwise, you’ll be in a perpetual state of longing with no end in sight. Talking about how you’re going to get there will reassure each other that all your efforts are not in vain. You must keep an eye on the bigger picture if you don’t want to be discouraged by the day-to-day hardships that long distance relationships entail.
No matter your exact situation, it's important that you come to some sort of agreement or compromise about where you'll head together unless you want to do long-distance forever.
If your partner is not willing to have an end goal, that is indeed a reason to break up.
Set a goal - your ultimate goal for the relationship, or an interim goal, such as living together if that’s part of what you want - and set a reasonable time frame for it to happen within, given the circumstances of your individual relationship. Inform your long-distance partner of your decision, and work toward it. If your partner does not work toward meeting this goal and does not meet your requirement within the time frame and there are no extenuating circumstances, end the relationship guilt-free.
I have had friends who had long-distance relationships and didn't break up. The secret to their success? They knew how many months they would be apart. Even though it was difficult for them to be apart, they were secure in their commitment to one another, and their timeline had an end date