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Emotional Blackmail - Coggle Diagram

- - - - generate hate and forget thanksgiving, not mature or filial towards parents
    - - being a good boy
      - best not better
      - pursue perfect without faults
      - submissive to authority
- - - - guilty
      - frustrated
      - fear
    - - self-esteem / worthy
      - guilty feeling
        
        when being downplayed
        
        when being threatened
        
        when being accused
      - security
    - - pursue a good reputation
      - used to doubt the self
      - too much or over concerning others' feeling
      - seeking others' affirmations
      - too filial
      - over fear for the authority
  - - - eyebrows
      - sigh
      - wording
    - - demands
      - threats
      - oppress
      - crying, complaining
      - self-hurt
      - silience
- - - - love should not to be unresonably consumed or deprived
      - choices: love vs hate
    - - set up a emotional boundary
        
        reinforce the boundary
        
        3 steps to train up
        
        stop
        
        diminish the interactivity
        
        repeat the last words of others and yours
        
        lower anxiety
        
        skip away
        
        see
        
        sooth your own emotion first
        
        review the processes and feeling
        
        sooth your own anxiety and guilty
        
        remind yourself of the emotion boundary
        
        respond
        
        one time one bite one change
        
        set goals at different level
        
        rationally select which to achieve
      - defense sensation
        
        beware of not deliberately or unconsciously to trigger others' emtional blackmail
        
        be aware of being blackmailed and be brave enough to refuse it
      - pre-requisite to emotional boundary
        
        heart to heart talk to the self
        
        accept to what boundary you really want to set up
        
        freely and truly to immerse and understand in your emotion
        
        firmly decide that you are not the one being responsible for others
        
        promise yourself that I must protect myself well
    - - concern your own feeling
      - understand yourself
      - self-acceptance
      - responsible for yourself, your feeling and decisions and actions
        
        self-determine and being host of yourself, respect and respnsible for your decision and actions
      - express your feeling and concerns and needs
    - - respect others' feeling
    - - please others
      - flee from others
      - being convinced
      - being angry