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I can't TRUST him about ... (Respecting me (For a period when he went…
I can't TRUST him about ...
Being faithful
Emotional affair with Sarah, the woman he managed at work 2007 - 2009
Photos of Eva on phone and no plausible reason for having / keeping them
2013
He gave me passwords to accounts. The passwords were changed but I wasn't told what to. New accounts set up. 2009 +
Screenshots of Sarah on his phone. Told he was intrigued by what she is doing now. How can I trust a man who still thinks about an 'ex'. His thoughts are not solely about our relationship. 2020
Supporting my mental health
Emotional affair with Sarah when I was dealing with PND and anxiety 2007-2009
Shouted at for not being instantly cured 2007
Told that whatever I think is wrong. That my views are distorted by my anxiety. 2006+
Constantly trying to fix me rather than just support 2007+
Was told that I was unhinged and he would call a doctor 2019
Shouted at me for no good reason and then told me it's my fault because I am annoying 2019
Apologising for causing me pain or offence but being told its my fault or there are mitigating circumstances 2000+
Not supporting me when people are cruel to me about my mental health 2016+
Not supporting me when something triggers a panic attack 2007+
Doesn't take time to listen to me, tells me his view of my anxiety as though it is fact 2019
Being honest with me
Lied about his hours on shift when he worked with Sarah 2007-2009
Lied about coming home later from work than expected 2007-2009
Lied about the source of Eva photos on his phone 2017
Lied on and off about his relationship with Sarah 2007+
Downplayed his actions when he had counselling 2019
He lies to cover himself. With smathimgs. He never does anything 'wrong' 2000+
Respecting me
For a period when he went out he would lie about what time he would come home 2007 - 2009
After our son was born I was treated as nothing more than a nanny, cook, cleaner, nurse 2000 - 2003
He put his family above me 1991+
He complained that I made it hard for him to go out even though I didn't stop him 2007 - 2010
He complained that I controlled who he could see although all I did was ask him not to see Sarah 2007+
Shouting at me although I had not done anything bad, using me as a verbal punchball because his dad was ill 2016-2019
Praising everyone but me for doing their job 2000+
I was expected to make sacrifices for being a stay at home mum but he wasn't 2000+
When I was working and earning more than him he was happy that I paid for all our holidays. But when I stopped working to bring up our children I was treated as a parasite 2000+
Told me that I am negative in almost every conversation we have 2019
Shutting down the conversation when I say something that he dislikes especially if I'm critical about someone he likes 2000+
Cut down the snapping and shouting but increased the criticism 2019
He can do and say what he likes but I can not 2000+
Controlling his temper
He has shouted at me consistently for the last three years 2016 - 2019
On a couple of occasions he has waved his fists leaving me afraid he would hit me 2016 - 2019
On a couple of occasions our daughter had expressed fear at getting into the car with him 2016 - 2019
Snappy when he has to deal with father's estate 2019+
Treating me with care and compassion
He allows me to be ill for a day, after that I am told to go to a Dr 2006+
Shouting at me for having a mental health issue 2007
Telling me "I made my bed I better lie in it" when I was ill and needed help when our son was young 2000+
Developing the same symptoms as me when I was ill 1991+
Ignoring my wishes on how I want to be supported 2007 - 2019
Not researching about my condition and how he could support me 2006+
When I tell him I feel upset his first instinct is to explain why he cannot be held responsible for that 2000+
He puts everyone else's needs above mine 1991+
He can be a hypocrite. e.g he can't possibly multitask but I am expected to cook Sunday lunch, help with homework, sort out school uniform whilst he pops round to neighbours next door ... 2018
We were expected to make sacrifices to cover our loss of income but I was told to make more sacrifices than him 2007+
He uses emotional blackmail. Particularly when his dad was ill. 2016+
Bolstering my self confidence
Telling me that people only like fit, young, slim people 2007
Not complementing me 2007+
Consistently patronising me by mansplaining topics that I worked on (and often getting them wrong) 2016+
Staring at younger, fit women 2006+
He does not listen to me, he hears. Talks over me. 2000+
Rewriting any kind of text that I construct. Not changing the content but the words or grammar. 2016+
He will step on the breaks when a young woman.an wants to cross the road even if it means it could hurt me and kids 2006+