REPAIR CHECKLIST/TOOLKIT
I feel: scared, sad, blamed, unappreciated, defensive, please don't withdraw, that hurts my feelings
Sorry: let me try again, I can see my part in all this, Im sorry please forgive me
Get to yes: lets find common ground, lets agree to include both our views in a solution
I need to calm down I need things to be calmer right now, please be gentler with me, I am starting to feel flooded, can we talk about something else for a while
Stop action! I might be wrong here. Please let;'s stop for a while, lets take a break, Im feeling flooded, please stop, lets agree to disagree
I appreciate: My part of the problem is... i see your point=...thats a good point...I love you. I am thankful for..this is not your problem it is OUR problem,...I am thankful for.I admire..
