Has your culture changed in your life? It made my life more difficult. My aunt was diagnosed to have tumor in her brain last year. Grandmother move to my home later as there was not enough people to take care both of them. After my mom asked me about my opinion on grandmother's move to our home, she made the decision despite my refusal. I don't know how to "deal with" my grandmother, as I haven't talked with her for about four years, and we had not conversed a lot even when I was young and frequently visiting their home. As a result, I lock myself in my room and tried my best to avoid any type of interaction with my grandmother to avoid the later embarrassment. My aunt passed away several days ago, and my mom told me to see my little sister to comfort her. Honestly, I have no feeling about the death of my aunt. I used to believe that the only reason of humans' sadness for their relative death was that they felt insecure as they had one less person to rely on. I have not rely on my aunt at all - how can I build a tie with her without interaction? So I believe I was not capable of being empathetic with my little sister. Besides, I also do not understand why my sister would need my words: does my mom hope me to function as a "substitute" or "half of a substitute" of my aunt to provide her the sense of security? Then why does it have to be me? I think any friend can do this in approximately the same way. I once asked my mother how relatives are different from your best friends, and she gave me the example that you may borrow money from your relatives, but it's much harder to do so from your friends, and that merely shows that relatives are more willing to trust each other. When I asked my mother the reason why it was impossible to build this trusting relationship between you and your friends, she could not answer it. I still have no answer to it. As I have no reason to believe that I would be helpful to make my sister feel happier (I can only assume that she is sad), I'm still confused on deciding whether or not to meet her.