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Relational Dialectics, and the foundations of Relationships (Key terms,…
Relational Dialectics, and the foundations of Relationships
Key terms, and Vocab
Autonomy-Connection refers to our need to have close connection with others as well as our need to have our own space and identity.
Novelty-Predictability is the idea that we desire predictability as well as spontaneity in our relationships.
Openness-Closedness refers to the desire to be open and honest with others while at the same time not wanting to reveal every thing about yourself to someone else.
Stages of Relationships
Coming Together
Intensifying
Integrating
Experimenting
Bonding
Initiating
Coming Apart
Stagnating
Avoiding
Circumscribing
Terminating
Differentiating
Definitions
RELATIONAL DIALECTICS
: Some scholars believe that we grapple with things in our relationships regardless of the stages we are in. So another way we can better understand our personal relationships is by understanding the notion of relational dialectics.
Personal Paragraph
Once again much like interpersonal relationships, I think there are still some big connections from the way that men and woman have differences in communicating, to what we are continuing to learn and I think it is fascincating. Especially when talking about the stages in a relationship there are some definite connections. In my own experience I have noticed the stages, especially when forming new friends, or when meeting new people, and it is interesting to see how quickly or how slowly a relationship takes to develop throught the stages.
Key Terms, and Vocab with examples
Personal relationships
meet emotional, relational, and instrumental needs, as they are intimate, close, and interdependent relationships
such as those we have with best friends, partners, or immediate family.
Social relationships
are relationships that occasionally meet our needs and lack the closeness and interdependence of personal relationships.
This type of relationship includes include coworkers, distant relatives, and acquaintances.
Social Exchange Theorey
Essentially entails a weighing of the costs and rewards in a given relationship. Rewards are outcomes that we get from a relationship that benefit us in some way, while costs range from granting favors to providing emotional support. When we do not receive the outcomes or rewards that we think we deserve, then we may negatively evaluate the relationship, or at least a given exchange or moment in the relationship, and view ourselves as being underbenefited.
Key Takeaways
Relationships can be easily distinguished into personal or social and voluntary or involuntary.
Personal relationships are close, intimate, and interdependent, meeting many of our interpersonal needs.
Social relationships meet some interpersonal needs but lack the closeness of personal relationships.
There are stages of relational interaction in which relationships come together (initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding) and come apart (differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating).
The weighing of costs and rewards in a relationship affects commitment and overall relational satisfaction.