Discuss the incident with the victim, to help clear up misconceptions about their role in the traumatic event
Support students following upsetting events. Find a quiet place or room, and encourage the student to talk about the upsetting event. Ask whether the student would like company or would rather be left alone. If it is the former, give the student opportunities to talk, and just listen. The student may just want the company without having to talk about the event just yet. If so, respect the student’s wishes, and just sit with the student. If the student would rather be left alone, keep checking on the student at regular, brief intervals. Sometimes going for a walk with an adult can help drain off some of the impact of the event, helping the student to calm down, feel more in control, and feel ready to address the issue.
Use assistive techniques. For students who are having significant difficulties in beginning to explore the issue, it may be necessary to use assistive techniques. Some examples include (a) using a chart that shows facial expressions and labels emotions, (b) drawing a picture or series of pictures related to the event and associated feelings, (c) using dolls or figurines to help describe the interactions that occurred during the event, or (d) acting out the actual event.
Process the event. When the student is ready and willing to begin, use active listening, reflection, and paraphrasing to help the student discuss the event. Acknowledge the difficulty in talking about an upsetting event, and support the student’s efforts.
Give regular feedback. Note the progress being made as the student begins to relax and calm down. Let students know how well they are doing through positive statements. Allow for and expect increased emotions during this time.