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BT: I feel afraid of asking for a raise : - Coggle Diagram
BT: I feel afraid of asking for a raise :
This feels unsafe because....
The job might get taken away
What must I believe to be true to feel this way?
It's not safe to ask for what I want
What must I believe to feel this way?
People might shame me for asking for what I want
They might shame me because?
I am not worthy of having what I want
I am not worthy because
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The job might get taken away because
Things don't work out for me
Things don't work out for me because...
They just don't
What must I believe to be true to feel this way?
I am doomed, cursed, born under an unlucky star
I may feel like this because of my traumatic upbringing. It's a symptom of CPTSD to feel like there is something inherently wrong with you. This can't be true of millions of people with cptsd, so it's probably not true of me. Maybe I'm just like everybody else? I just decided to go for a stronger life lesson?
I may look stupid/greedy
What must I believe to be true to feel this way?
What others think of me is important
What must I believe to be true to feel this way?
Other people's approval is important for my survival
This is a truism, but is false most of the time. If my employer gets upset because I ask for a raise that's not really a big deal. The relationship to my employer is not what keeps me warm at night.
What must I believe to be true to STILL feel like this?
Other people's approval of me is what gives me work and keeps me employed. So it's what brings in the money. If they don't approve of me, I won't get Paid.
My employer don't need to approve of everything I do in order to keep me employed. I can afford to ask for a raise.
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I may not get it
This feels unsafe because
I need all the money I can get
What must I believe to be true to feel this way?
I don't have enough money to be safe
Security is a state of mind. Money reflects my vibration. Security needs to come first, and I have access to this vibration just like anybody else.
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I don't have enough money to look after myself and the cats optimally
I feel this way because
We have health problems and I can't afford optimal treatment
What I believe to be optimal treatment may not be. De-intellectualise! It's not up to me to find the practical solution. If my vibration is right and money is needed then it will come. Maybe raising my vibe will make all of us feel better without intervention.
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I feel this way because
I very rarely get opportunity to make money so I HAVE TO make the most of each op.
My vibration determines how much money comes to me. The LL job is a small job. It's the start towards something bigger and better. Whatever I get from them is better than where I was before. My vibration was good a few weeks ago and many things started to come to me. This is evidence of what I KNOW about vibration and LOA
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