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WGS Chapter 10 Resisting Gender Violence - Coggle Diagram
WGS Chapter 10 Resisting Gender Violence
Readings
Betrayed by The Angel: Debra Anne Davis questions why she never stood up for herself in situations involving men, in particular why she didn't feel like her own rapist deserved 35 years in prison. I think the point is that most woman are taught to put other people's feelings before our own, even at the cost of our voices, to the point where we won't even try to fight back.
Lisa's Ritual: A poem by Grace Caroline Bridges about her father raping her and how she dealt with it alone. She doesn't say anything, just lets herself become numb to it all and tries to bury it.
Sexual Violence in Iraq: Nadje Al-Ali writes about her research into the horrifically high rates of sexual violence in Iraq and concludes that facing a problem like this (the fact that sexual violence is embedded within the structure of Iraq itself) is complicated.
Beyond the Politics of Inclusion: Andrea Smith addresses how women of color are often left out when white-female-based human rights organizations talk about sexism and gender violence.
She Said: Mariah Lockwood's poem about how she married bc it was expected of her, to please the man and she dreamed of having a happy marriage. The abuse starts off as a few words, then escalates.
Gender Aspects of Human Trafficking (Emilie Linder) Human trafficking is a violation of human rights and often stems from discrimination, poverty, and violence. Attempts to address the issue need to put more focus on the trafficked people's voices and their agency
SayHerName (Homa Khaleeli): Raising awareness for the women also killed by law enforcement officers and to get their names to be heard in the media
Why Survivors Don't Report to Uni: Reasons people don't report rape include: It wasn't a big enough deal, they didn't know who to report to or that they could, it wasn't related to the Uni, they were afraid, drunk, or ashamed, didn't want him to get in trouble, or felt like they would be blamed
Notes
IPV=Interpersonal Gender Violence. Occurs when masculine entitlement/power manifests itself in harm toward others. Includes any unwanted coercive act that harms and/or violates another person.
Despite some legal protections like 1994 Violence Against Women Act and United Nations Resolution 1325 sexual violence is rampant everywhere
Accounts of sexual/gender violence often go underreported bc women are taught to be passive and not speak out against the male-dominated society (among other reasons but this is the umbrella)
It doesn't help that pornography, normalized violence, and overly sexualized celebrities/characters seem to encourage some of these behaviors
Women who have sex against their will often have one of two main reasons: they feel guilty for not having sex with the other person or the consequences if they do not are worse than just doing it
Since women used to be considered their husband's "property" the rape laws used to only apply if the woman was not the man's wife. Marital rape=unwanted sex between a married couple
Societal myths (women are making too big a deal out of it, it's their fault, men can't stop themselves) stop women from reporting or sometimes even recognizing rape
Reasons to stay in abusive relationship: shame, isolation that results in low self esteem, less support, and minimal options to leave, desensitization, insecurity, economic dependence, children, fear, and the threatening of their life
Direct Incest: penetration, sexual rubbing, inappropriate hugging, kissing, etc. Indirect Incest: sexualizing statements, speaking to child as surrogate spouse, inappropriate comments/stares at child's body, invading bathroom privacy, or inappropriate jealousy
Often call them "survivors" not "victims" to indicate that they can move forward and heal
Connections
We read
Speak
back in 8th grade and all the reasons people don't report, stay in abusive situations, and why it is so hard to talk about were covered (as far as I can remember).
I once saw something online that basically compared abusive relationships to slowly boiling a frog. You put a frog in already-hot water, it'll just jump out. Put the frog in cool water and slowly turn up the heat? It will stay there until it dies. Abusive relationships don't usually start off that way, they grow into it via twisted manipulation
Survivors can heal. No names, but I've got people in my life who are sexual violence survivors and are now in happy, healthy, committed marriages which is one of the most relieving things to see.
Question
What is the "umbrella reason" for women to not report sexual violence/stay in bad relationships? The systematic teaching to young girls that they must be passive, submissive, pleasing, and beautiful all for men, even at the expense of themselves