"in which men spend more time with their children, and are more involved with their home lives, than ever before. in which pen work just as hard at their jobs, if not harder, than ever before. in which men now report higher rates of work-life stress than women do. in which men are tormented by the lyrics of 'cats in the cradle.' in which men are being told, in newspapers and books, on web sites and TV shows, that they are the problem, that they need to help out, when honestly folks, they're doing the best they can" (page 701- 702).