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Family Conflicts By : Nine 4 and Palmy 19 M.3/301, Since conflicts…
Family Conflicts
By : Nine 4 and Palmy 19 M.3/301
Conflict between siblings
Unequal treatment from parents
Many parents might have an aspect that the younger sibling needs to be taken care of more than the older one, or some parents might treat their children depending on that child’s performance. This causes unequal treatment between siblings which will lead to conflict in the future.
Difference in age
Difference in age means different in maturity, experiences and interest. It is not easy to get along with a person who doesn’t have the same interest or
Competition
Competition between siblings are common among siblings who are approximately the same age. In this case, siblings may see each other as rivals, they might compete to show that he/she is better than another sibling to get their parents attention.
Property
There was a time when you owned everything that belonged to you. Then one day, someone unfamiliar suddenly appears into your life, someone who steals everything from you, your time, freedom, peace, property and even love that you deserve to have from your parents.
How to resolve conflicts in family
Express how one feels directly
One should say how one feels directly.
Talk when one is ready to talk
When talking with someone about problems or conflicts, one must be ready physically and emotionally. The argument might worsen if they are not ready to talk about the problem right now.
Discuss only the present problem
Discuss only the present problem, mixing issues will only make the conflict worse.
Give the other person a chance to explain their reasoning
Family members should give a chance for others to explain their reasoning in their point of view, before making any decision. Listen attentively and respect their opinion whether you agree or not.
Make sure that both sides understand each other’s point of view
Both sides should understand each other’s point of view, don’t be biased toward each other's opinion, so they can figure out the best way to solve the issue.
The accused must try to understand the problematic issue or conflict
Members should not accuse other people before acknowledging the actual problem that is happening.
Be ready to compromise
One should always be ready to compromise when there is a conflict, if the members just wait for the other to say sorry, the conflict that is happening might escalate.
Have a sincere goal to create a happy family
All members should try to maintain good relationships with each other, so the family will be harmonious and be able to create a happy family.
Conflict between parents and children
Behaviors of parents
Some parents might be very strict with their children in every aspect. When the children cannot live up to their expectations, parents start to complain. This makes children become annoyed and not want to listen to their parents. When the children do not try to improve themselves, parents complain even more.
Expectation
Some parents put high expectations on their children's shoulders. They want their children to live up to their expectations. Sometimes they compare their children with other children. This may stress their children out. They might become depressed, show aggressive behaviors, and this may eventually lead to conflicts.
Friend choice
Some parents are too concerned about their children and become very strict with their children when it comes to the issue of their children's friends. Some prohibit their children from having friends of the opposite sex. Some do not allow their children to go out with friends.
Generation gap
A generation gap might occur when parents cannot adapt to their fast-growing adolescent children who change in various aspects. Parents always think that their children are still little kids. This results in young people losing their freedom to decide and design their own lives.
How to prevent conflicts in family
Love and care
Sincerity, and care with one another. This will make family members feel warm, empowered, and able to trust one another. If they have any issues, they can talk about it openly with their family. Then, all together, everyone can solve problems smoothly.
Good communication skills
Use polite words and body language that shows feelings and opinions in an appropriate manner. Know how to encourage people. Understand the feelings of family members and also be a good listener.
Accountability of behavior
Some might display some inappropriate behaviors that other family members dislike. That person should accept and try to adjust such behaviors, so that they can live together well with other family members.
Adapt oneself
One family might consist of grandfathers, grandmothers, a father, a mother, children, and relatives. As all people have different natures, in order to live together, the most important thing everyone must do is to adapt oneself.
Awareness of emotion and violence
If a problem occurs within a family, family members should speak to one another through reason or try to solve the problem together in order to find a resolution peacefully. This will enable happiness to be present in the family and all family members will have good relationships.
Understand rules
If a problem occurs, members must talk with one another right away, and never talk sarcastically to your family members, and so on. If some rules are set, a family will live happily and orderly together.
Conflict between parents
Difference in personality
Many people have different lifestyles and personalities when people have different lifestyles and personalities this problem makes conflict between parents. Some parents have conflicts because of the work when parents work when they come home. Parents are conflicted about money.
Lack of awareness of one’s responsibility
The head of the family. He went to work in the public sphere to finance his family. A wife stayed at home and raised their children. However, nowadays the wife goes to work outside in the private sphere, then comes back home and looks after the children.
Unfaithfulness
Once their partner finds out, he or she will be upset and think that such a thing is dishonorable. This then leads to a fight that might be very serious, and they may decide to split up. Adapting to each other's relatives is another In other cases, some might be very jealous
Lack of time for each other
Each individual in a couple has their own personal responsibility and has to work. Sometimes they might not have time to talk to each other. If something, even a small trigger, happens to cause conflicts, it can escalate into a bigger problem. Therefore, reconciliation is the best way of solving the conflict.
Violence
The use of violence may seem to be the way to solve some problems, but it actually only stimulates the conflict into becoming more critical. For example, a fight or a scolding that a woman may start will lead men to use violence to end problems.
Incompatibility of relatives
One partner might have a habit that relatives of the other partner do not like. They are not compatible because they have different values, culture, and style of nurturing. One partner might feel uncomfortable, which then leads to conflict. Some couples may let their relatives influence their married lives too much, thus causing problems.
Since conflicts between each member are common in the family, we should know how to prevent the conflict that might happen. The thing that we learn in this topic is how many types of family systems and the way to prevent and resolve them. If we don’t know conflict will become.