Overview: The 3 Lit Reviews

1st literature review

Intuition

Deliberate practice

Dating

intuition

Dating conceptualised as a problem

Dating intuition as a result of practice

Dating as something where "intuition" is needed

Dual processing theory

Intuition and expertise as a problem

Expert Perception

Emotional attunement

Deliberate practice

Pickup material on dating intuition

Dating

pickup community and dating

Ethics of dating: "sexual conquest or a desire for connections?" - defend dating e.g. grazian/casanova complex

Expertise

My approach: (1) expertise is a problem (2) the accumulation of knowledge

Accumulation of skills/knowledge through practice

Deliberate practice and the developmental years primer

It's a broad field (chase & simon etc; drefyus)

Development of intuition

Theoretical framework

1st lit review. Aim: present a conceptual framework. Establish the argument that dating is a form of expertise: a skilled process in which performers solve problems. The debate has not been holistic enough. SST is similar to Deliberate Practice. Appreciating that dating is a form of expertise that might be improved through deliberate practice opens up our conceptual appreciations and offers opportunities. Expertise research fills the gap.

What are the research questions?

What is the theoretical framework?

Understanding dating

Can we talk about dating as a form of expertise? Is it as trainable as other skills?

I argue, yes as it is a trainable skill, although until now we do not have the evidence

What is deliberate practice?

Innate ability or practice

Dating

necessary but not sufficient

Overcoming constraints

The developmental years

The 4 facets

Developing mental representations

The link with intuition

What sort of practice works to improve people: social skills training

Can you be a natural at dating?

The link between deliberate practice and intuition

Growth mindset

Why important: The social implications of not being good at dating, e.g singletons

Is dating a natural skill or can it be learnt?

Accumulation of mental representations

It is wrong and damaging to believe that it is not a trainable skill. Expertise research fills the gap.

Intuition.
Establish the argument that dating is a domain where system 1 responding is especially required; deliberation less so (except default-interventionist); selective search and linking patterns to actions (e.g., chunks/scripts) is essential

creativity

Is expertise a result of practice or talent?

Dating. Aim to establish that dating is a skill. To look at what the literature tells us about whether dating is learnable. To understand why being attractive might be a skill. To discuss the pickup community.

What is dating? What is dating initiation?

Intro: dating is a skill a form of expertise

Dating is a skill: using theories about attraction what would we argue they need to present/do

Social skills training - learn behaviours, scripts, breaking the ice etc

evolutionary - present high/appropriate mate value

social exchange theory - present desired qualities

Biologically and neurologically inspired: make one self likeable/attractive by hijacking the emotional/cognitive attachment system http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/Default.aspx?id=39351 AND https://www.livescience.com/24593-brain-love-dating-decisions.html

Courtship models (e.g. Davis) go through the process correctly - from approaching to more

Dating and intuition e.g. recognising cues - verbal and non-verbal

Other social psychology theories of attraction: e.g, halo effect (attractiveness, Berschield and Walster), similarity, pickup lines, small gestures (e.g. smiling, compliments)

Mating intelligence

Anxiety, shyness, and dating

Anxiety, confidence, self-efficacy and how it interacts with success

skills to accomplish

touching

asking for a date an anxiety

pickup lines

flirting

small gestures (e.g. smiling, compilments)

verbal and non verbal behaviours

holism vs gestaultism

how do you and how long does it take to develop dating skills?

social skills training is very similar to deliberate practice

overcoming constraints in three developmental domains table

The 4 facets of DP in three developmental domains table (chess, clinical skills training, pickup)

Intuition in 2 domains compared in table (chess v dating)